My 11 month old won't sleep in his own bed...

Julianne - posted on 02/01/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son is 11 months old, almost 12 months. He had a hospital stay the beginning of Jan. for two nights. A week after the hospital stay he had an MRI done. Ever since the MRI I can not get him to sleep in his own bed. On some nights he will for a few hours, BUT he'll wake up about 2 or 3 hours after I lay him down SCREAMING!! Does anyone have any suggestions to break this habit?



Thank you,



Julianne

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Julianne - posted on 02/07/2009

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THANK YOU!  I'm so sorry for replying so late, I can't figure out this page yet - lol.  Any how thank you for the advise.  And I do some what agree that he will sleep in his own bed when he is ready.  I actually am getting very used to having him in my bed and am starting to enjoy it.  :) 



 



Jules

Talia - posted on 02/02/2009

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My almost 12 month old daughter has been doing the same thing for about a month or so now. It started out of no where. She used to be a good little napper during the day-atleast an hour or more at each nap which always gave enough time for a shower, cleaning up, making food, etc. Now if I put her in her crib at nap time she'll only sleep 20-30 minutes if she doesn't wake up as soon as I move her to her crib! I have resorted to laying in my bed or the sofa with her at naptime which has been a pain...sometimes enjoyable. Her morning nap is when I get a shower and I can't leave her unattended on the bed so I can usually move her to a blanket on the floor.

We have been thinking she's afraid of the dark, possibly because if we can get her to bed in her crib, she'll wake up screaming around 2am.

I don't want sleeping in my bed to become a habit but sometimes it's all we can do to assure we'll both sleep at night.

We have started to leave her light on in her room. Thinking she was afraid of the dark. It helps sometimes-she'll sleep until 4, a few times the whole night.

Last night we tried leaving the door cracked open so she could still hear all the noises throughout the house. When she was an infant she had to sleep in silence...maybe they grow out of that? She seems to like when the tv is on when sleeping in my bed. So maybe they just need some background noise?

Kyndra - posted on 02/02/2009

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it was probably a traumatizing event for him. When kids go through something that scares them they will change their behavior. My daughter use to sleep through the night and in her own bed. Since i've left her dad she crawls in my bed and gets up several times during the night. it's frustrating sometimes. But give it time and it'll get better. you could try putting some blankets in his room and sleeping on the floor a few nights so that you are in his room with him, i even crawl in her toddler bed with her to get her to sleep sometimes. and she usually falls asleep in her own bed but will come in mine in the middle of the night.

Patricia - posted on 02/02/2009

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The MRI machine is kind of clastraphic. Is your son in a cot? you might want to try putting a mattress on the floor for a while and putting him on that, I don't know if it will help but worth a try.

Brenda - posted on 02/01/2009

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Hi Julianne,I can certainly understand your plight! My son was not a sleep in your own bed child. To begin with it was a struggle just getting him to stay in bed after reading to him, and would be up and down all the time. I could not just close the door and let him cry for hours, I felt we both stressed out with this, I did however try my old dressing gown which was soft, cuddly and smelt of "mum". He would fall asleep in my bed then I would carry him to his, Mind you it was not 100% effective, I then after some time and he was older I found that sitting him down and deciding with him that he could sleep in my bed 1 night a week (we chose Fri) and that was our night that we watched tv in my room in bed. That worked very well, mind you there were a few times he tried to worm his way, but I stood firm. The next stage followed of saying "I love you very much, but you are just too big to stay in mum's bed, time for you to sleep in your own bed all the time, I found that it seemed to be a fear of not knowing where I was or that I was going to leave. I even rearranged his room so he could see my room and that i was there. A night light in the hallway and we were done.! Just remember each child is different and takes them more or less time to adjust!

As for the MRI have you thought about finding a picture of one and showing him. Perhaps talk about it and the noises that it makes and what it does. He may open up to you and say that it was a scarey sound and that is what has been playing on his mind !

Sorry I've waffled on and don't know if I have helped at all. Just keep perseveering with him and it will all come together for you I'm sure !



Cheers Brenda

Julianna - posted on 02/01/2009

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The MRI clearly made him uneasy. Let him sleep with you for a while. The family bed in an important part of comfort and bonding for children.

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Quoting Julianne:

My 11 month old won't sleep in his own bed...

My son is 11 months old, almost 12 months. He had a hospital stay the beginning of Jan. for two nights. A week after the hospital stay he had an MRI done. Ever since the MRI I can not get him to sleep in his own bed. On some nights he will for a few hours, BUT he'll wake up about 2 or 3 hours after I lay him down SCREAMING!! Does anyone have any suggestions to break this habit?

Thank you,

Julianne


 



Hi Julianne,



Not sure if I have anything very helpful to say, but thought I'd share with you my experience with my son (who's 3 in April) and has hated sleep since birth! Up until the 1st Jan 2009 he slept in bed with me. I tried endless ways of enticing him to sleep in his own bed and tried various text book approaches etc. His preference is still to sleep in bed with me but I have now managed to get him to keep to a routine of at least starting the night in his own bed and on waking in the early hours he walks down the hall and climbs into my bed for the rest of the night.....it's a start at least! :0) However I have been overwhelmed with well meaning advice on how to make him sleep and all I can say is that none of it has worked! Because what it needs is for HIM to want to sleep and to want his own bed. Personally it has taken Tristan to be 2 yrs plus before I've been able to begin to explain and reason with him which has helped create the new routine of starting the night in his own bed (but believe me there were still some major tantrums!). I'm not anti bed sharing and I think it does resolve itself anyway as they get older (by the time he's 5 plus I really won't be the cool thing in his life anymore and his own bedroom will be much more cool!!!) When Tristan was 12months old I could not get him to sleep anywhere else, and it maybe that your son is unsettled after his hospital stay and the MRI and just needs some time of reassurance and then when he's ready he'll happily settle again in his own bed. I would also recommend Cranial-Osteopathy which is known to be a great helper for babies and young children with disturbed sleep patterns. Tristan is now having this treatment.



Not sure I've been much help in all I've said, but I do empathise greatly - Tristan was born asleep (he managed to sleep through the birth!!) and after that I've had endless sleep battles with him...but we're getting there now slowly and I'm sure you will too.



Kindest regards, Amelia

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