my 22yr old daughter is not working

Jeanette - posted on 03/11/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




my 22yr old daughter is not wanting to work or go to school because of emotional issues. she cant seem to hold down a job and has no idea what she wants to do with herself.. how do i get her motivated?


Deidre - posted on 03/12/2012




I would get her medicated as well as into therapy sessions.

Emotional issues are real even though society deems otherwise. Mental illness is also real and often put off and ignored. The fact is there is a real problem. And sometimes we as moms are not to blame or we are unable to get to the root of it all on our own.

Her not having a job is one thing. But if she has real issues that will be the least of your worries. I would have came into this situation in a different way if it were only the fact of her not having a job.

It is our responsibility to make sure our children are educated and experienced enough by our means to be able to get along in the real world as self sufficient independent positive members of our community. They do not arrive of this knowledge on there own. So if we've done everything for them ever since they were very little and then throw them to the wolves when the become an official adult by society's view, I find that to be unfair. At 22 if she has not been bred for true independence then it would be not too late to get on board with that program. Teaching the value of the dollar is my favorite thing. Putting a price tag on everything in the house including "Towel Renting" is fun and amusing. It breaks the ice as well as wakes them up to reality. Everything on the planet costs us. It is never too late to pass on the family torch. :)

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