MY DAUGHTER HAS REACHED PUBERTY AND STARTING TO DEVELOP,HOW DO I EXPLAIN HER MONTHLY CYCLE WITHOUT SCARING HER

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Kristil - posted on 05/18/2009

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I have always just answered my kids' questions about sex when they asked. My daughter knew everything by the time she was three and she was fine with it. Maybe you should just get a diagram of the inside of a body and show her the female reproductive organs. Maybe explain how she is different from a boy on the inside as well as the outside. Then you can explain the uterus' function and how it is a special, powerful organ that allows her to create life. Make it positive by telling her that females are special because they are able to do that. Explain about the lining of the uterus and how it fills with blood to prepare for a baby. Tell her that the blood comes out if there is no baby in there. Just say it all very calmly and matter-of-factly. Explain that the bleeding is not like when you fall and injure yourself, it just comes out on its own. I would explain that the bleeding itself doesn't hurt, but that she may (probably will) have some cramping from the uterus contracting to shed the extra blood and tissue. If she is not going to wear tampons, I would describe that she will see tissue on her pad so she doesn't freak out about that. You will do fine. You have done a good job raising her so far and I think it will be okay.

Karen - posted on 05/18/2009

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Hiya, chances are she already knows a lot more than you think. Join a library and look for a book titled HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT SEX. you should start as young as 2 years old talking to your kids about nature and the world around them. get them to 'stop and smell the roses', this teaches them to wait when the time is right. when they reach 8 years old, follow their lead, remember they will hear things at school, the last thing you want is for them to get the wrong impression! so best coming from you! also rather make it a question and answer session rather than a lecture, that way she is involved and you also don't risk saying too much at this age. follow her lead but do whatever you do, please tell her what's going on. its best for her to know, so that when she is in that position, be it getting her period or whatever it is, that she is wise enough to know what to do or know where to go for help! i grew up in a family that never educated me in time. by in time i mean, i had to find out things the hard way, i could've saved myself a lot of stress if i had known about these things. tell her that you find it private and precious and its just part of growing up, you're in this together. stop worrying about your own fears and think of her, give it a go. and get that book its a great help, from conservative parents right to those outspoken parents, we can all learn something from that book. don't leave it too late, it is more hurtful in the end...... lastly, think about how you were told, did you find out yourself, where you freaked out or how did you come to know of it. surely you can remember this and base your telling her on this. i sure wished my mom could speak to me, looking back today, it would've changed my life and also saved me a heck of a lot of time and stress trying to find out.... GOOD LUCK!

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Kenya - posted on 05/15/2009

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I GOT HER A PUBERTY BOOK FROM THE DOCTOR SHE READ THAT AND ASKED QUESTIONS..BUT OTHER THAN THATS SHE A LITTLE SCARED I GUESS THATS NORMAL

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Wow, my age group didn't start til between 13 and 15.

Does she know the proper name for her body parts? Does she know where babies come from? If not, now is the time to get the library books and start explaining the basics.

Rebekah - posted on 05/15/2009

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My kids aren't that old yet, but I've already started talking to them about what to expect. I just have been really honest and told them that as they get older their bodies will begin to prepare to be moms and this is part of it. Good luck!!!

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