My son is almost 10 months old and still will not sleep through the night. He sleeps better in the bed with me, but I always wake up with a backache and am tired all day long. I am a stay at home mom, and really have no other help with him. The Doctors have said to let him cry it out and to let him self soothe but he doesn't. Last night he cried for over 1 1/2 hours until I put him into bed with me. He just seems to hate his bed. I am at my wits end. Any help would be appreciated.

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Angela - posted on 02/26/2009

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My son is now 21months old, and we went through the same thing. I had some silk pajamas and he loved snuggling and cuddling when I wore them. I started letting him sleep with the pajama top. It has been great!!! If he does wake up...he snuggles up with my pajama top, and goes right back to sleep. He calls it his Silky.

Gail - posted on 02/26/2009

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my 15 year old did not sleep through until 3  in the end used to give her two bottles of water to go to bed with........got her out of sleeping in my bed by doing one night in hers and one in mine when she was ok with it and staying in her room started on two in hers and one in mine and so on ..........took awhile but we got there in the end

Danielle - posted on 02/25/2009

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One thing I learned is if he lays down still awake and not when he is asleep that doesn't scare him as much as when he wakes and finds you not there.  Try this at nap time first and see how that works.  Something comforting helps too a teddy or blanky.  I have twin boys and they liked to listen to music we would dance before bed and after i layed them down and left the music on all night,  if they were still awake i didn't tip toe around i vaccuumed, etc. 

Summer - posted on 02/25/2009

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I started out with this problem and realised that what the experts say does work they will eventually settle themselves to sleep. I may take a long time for him to do so but what helped with my son was after his crying for the first 20 minutes I would go in there every 10 or so without picking him up and let him know that it was ok. It took about a week but after that he went to sleep just fine on his own.

Tina - posted on 02/25/2009

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Awww the comfort a baby feels when they feel mom so close. I raised my son alone and lived in an efficiency apartment for the 1st few months of my sons life, falling asleep nursing him and letting him sleep with me on the couch where I then slept became a habit....later moving to a one bedroom apartment and sharing a room he loved as a toddler to always sleep with me too. I found that putting him in bed, with a rolled blanket to give him the sense of something next to him helped him to not wake up once he did fall asleep. Peaceful music was also something I did. Sleep time music calms even babies. It may take time but you have to stick to keeping him in his own bed. Praying for you to get through that. Hang in there, you can do it. :)

Joni - posted on 02/25/2009

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I had the SAME problem until recently.  Does your son nurse or need a bottle when he wakes up and wants in bed with you? My Dr. told me to start giving him water because then he'll realize it's nothing special to wake up for.  I know they want him to be able to self soothe but what I started doing is putting him in his crib, letting him cry it out and if he still didn't fall asleep, I'd go in and rock him until he fell asleep then put him in his crib.  It's probably not the most ideal way of doing it, but he did adjust to sleeping in his crib.  It's only been about a week since he started sleeping totally through the night (he just turned 10 months) but it's such a relief to me to get some restful sleep! I know every baby is different and what works for one doesn't always work for another but I hope this was helpful! Good luck!

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