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My son's father is having a new it his last name..

Sangelyr - posted on 09/17/2018 ( no moms have responded yet )




So basically my pregnancy with my son was kept hidden by my ex from his family and some of his friends. Even though we have known eachother since highschool and have the same circle of friends from that school. He made excuses about why he couldn't be with me while i was pregnant. The best being that he didn't like my hair color and my ethnicity (im puerto rican). He was there for the baby's birth but then never came back to even sign the birth certificate. His family didn't even see the baby until he was a little over a month old. Needless to say since I was alone while pregnant and afterwards I gave the baby my name last. Now it's been 7 yrs and his father makes comments about the last name but has never bothered to legally change it.
He is now having another child and has decided to give the new baby his last name. My son has already questioned it and I just keep telling him that he would need to speak to his father about that. I feel bad that my son doesn't have his last name and that the new baby will but at the same time I do not want to be the one to tell my son that his father wasn't there to sign the birth certificate or even present him to the family until a month later.
What should I do?

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