Need custody help asap

Pamela - posted on 08/09/2017 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have been primary parent w joint custody for 8 years now. I'm at the end of 2nd divorce. It will be final next month. My xhusband bio dad to my 13 old son is seeking custody because I let a childhood friend boy stay two nights and sleep on couch with my son home. He hired a PRivate investigator. We have the paramour clause in divorce. He got the Guardian Ad litem on his side. How can a keep custody and what to expect at custody trial? This is second time my x has petioned court for custody. First time was denied settled in mediation. He gets 10 days a month and half of summer. He has a ton of money and I teach school part time. I feel helpless. Going to trial soon.

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Pamela - posted on 08/12/2017

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I told the court appointed Guardian about the constant drinking and so did the kids. She said as long as it's a drink or two it's fine to drive. I was shocked. We are in coparenting classes and they are not helping. I have contacted him three times to sit and talk about what kids need and want. He is arrogant and never responds. Mid September is the actual trial. I habe not had my son around friend boy in well over a month. I contacted the Guardian to let her know I was completely taking her advice. She is yet to respond. I thought about asking judge if I agreed to having a clause in custody agreement stating if in the future I allowed this to happen I would give dad custody. Everyday dealing with this is mental torture. Of course my attorney says I will be fine since I was seeking a modification of visitation I only wanted to reduce time during school year. Only by two to four nights. He gets 10 now. But after hiring the Private investigator dad is seeking full

Pamela - posted on 08/10/2017

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Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am so afraid of actually getting on the stand. We currently have joint custody with me being primary. He has 10 days a month and I have 20. Your experience sounds exactly like mine. How many days did y'all settle on? They are trying to say the kids are too attached to me but I have been their constant since birth. The guardian even has the therapist saying kids are to attached. Kids hate going to dads because of step mom and the abuse of alcohol at their home. I do not drink, work part time so I can be home for kids yet I make a mistake dumb one I know but now I feel like I'm going to loose the kids just because of the control of x husband.

Pamela - posted on 08/10/2017

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Have you been through a trial? I'm just not sure my odds going against a Guardian ad litem. The court room scares me and I'm afraid because I made a stupid mistake judge will give x custody

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