Need some advice with my son and his sleeping problems.

Karmi - posted on 11/03/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son is 20 months and about a month ago he started his big boy bed which was working out GREAT for the first 2 weeks. One night he ended up in my bed when I wasn't even awake, the next morning I found him next to me. Then after that night he would lay with me periodically, but not every night maybe just in the morning right when he was waking up and I wa still a little sleepy. But now my son has been waking up anywhere from 3-4 hours a night throwing tantrums and refuses to be in his bed. He screams if we walk into his room when I try to put him back to sleep. He has almost kicked a hole in his door. He even threw such a huge tantrum he tripped in got a bloody nose on my bed frame! It seems so tramautizing for the both of us. I don't even know what to do anymore! I try to put him back in his bed and read a couple books, pat his back, give him a little water, try and have him relax, but the second I move to leave his room or if he rolls over he instantly wakes up and starts screaming again. I just don't know what to do anymore. I am getting no sleep and these tantrums are wearing down my son and I. Any help?


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Hi, Karmi!
My daughter is now 15, but if you don't mind I'd like to make a suggestion. First though, a question, does he go to bed at the same time every night? If not, that's my first suggestion.

What we did with my daughter was let her sleep go to sleep with us ... then moved her to her own bed. As she got a little older (maybe around 3 or so), I would go in her room and lay in her bed with her until she went to sleep (turning down all lights and tvs, etc. - sometimes playing soft music).

Eventually, she was able to go to bed on her own. Start slow and let him take the time he needs to acclimate to being a big boy.

Hope this helps.


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Tammy - posted on 11/08/2010




I saw a t.v show about something like this their advice was to read to him and sit by his bed in a chair and each week or nite move the chair futher away. If he throws a tantrum tell you wont read to him unless he's a big boy. maybe take him and let him pick out some books at the library. To me it sounds like he's feeling maybe rejected or he's doing it to get your attention. My son was throwing fits to get what he wants and once you dont give him his way for awhile they stop. Encourage the good behavior. Good luck.

Kerry - posted on 11/03/2010




I have the same problem with my 2 and half year old. he been like this since he was bout 6 months old. I dont think there much u can do other than 2 keep puttin him back in his bed. Ive been 2 doctors n everything wiv my son but no1 seems to help =(

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