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Elizabeth - posted on 04/28/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi my name is Elizabeth and I'm a new member of facebook all together and saw that a few friends have this site on their facebook pages, so thought i would join. I have a question that I don't know if it has been asked before, but I would like opinions on it. I have a 15 month old baby girl and she is the love of my life. Things did not work out well with her father and she will probably never know him. He was abusive and I left him before she was born. As she gets older and starts asking questions, what is the best thing to tell her? When should I tell her the truth about the type of person her father was? Or should I never tell her what happened? Just curious to see what other people in the same situation have done...thanks!!


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Wendy - posted on 04/28/2009




This is my opinion.Tell her the truth.It would be easier if it came from you.Too,one day she will get curious and want to know,and there is always the chance he may try to come into her life,so I think you should be honest with her

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i honestly wouldnt tell her who he is..... and definately dont let him see her, if hes done that to you, who says what he'll do to her?... I made the mistake of letting my daughters 'father' see her a few times... and now she always asks "kristalyn's daddy go?" .. i just either say i dont know, or she answers herself and says hes at work. and it breaks my heart every time she asks. . hmm but no if she doesnt ask who her 'dad' is when shes older i wouldnt tell her anything... just cause eventually, you will find someone and she'll only know him as daddy.

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