please give me good advice!

Amanda - posted on 05/11/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am lucky enough to be a stay at home mom. My baby girl is almost 11 months old and I just can't stay here any longer. I am not in love with her father. He smokes marijuana and drinks everyday and he loves her but I just can't take it anymore. I haven't been happy with him for almost 1 and a half years, but I've stayed with him because he can support me and my baby. So I've only stayed for her so that she is happy. I'm afraid to leave him because he's threatened to take her away from me since he has a lot of money and a great lawyer. I don't do drugs I don't drink and all I care about is her. I have a great work history and a supportive family. I don't know the laws about child support or custody. Can anyone give me advice please!

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Rachel - posted on 05/11/2009

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hi i have so been in ur situation,
im not sure where u are but here in australia my ex partner- parents took my baby of me and kicked me out for there house....
now the laws state over here if the father is with the child there is nothing you can do. and if you are a single mum your are not allwoed to move away from the father more than a hour away from him it is classed as abduction yes its fucking stupid buts the law is stupid i cant get full cusodity of my daughter unless her father is a felan.. my advice is if you have supportive parents go there and saty if he comes near you call the police make him look like the bad and that your scared of him and hopefully you can get a restraining order which then you can apply for full cusodity and never have to see him agian

i know i very young but it happened to me thats how i had to do it

good luck

Bonnie - posted on 05/11/2009

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I would talk to a lawyer, because custody laws can be confusing and they differ in every state. Most lawyers consult for free. If you are unhappy with the father, you definitely need to leave. Although she may not notice that things aren't great between you and the father right now, she will some day and that can often affect a child more than being raised by a single parent.

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