Post baby body

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I just recently started dating again after leaving my 1 year old son's father who now has nothing to do with me or our son. My stomach is covered hip to hip in stretch marks up to my belly button my breasts are saggy because they grew so much while i was pregnant and breastfeeding and because i had a csection my tummy is a bit saggy and i also have a scar from the surgery. i feel so embarased to show my body to a new person because its not like its my son's dad who knew what i looked like before during and now after the pregnancy has anyone else ever experienced feelings like this i just dont know how to handle it i am back to my pre pregnancy size even a little bit smaller but nooothing looks like it used to


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My son is 2 years old and I am still battling with my body image. I still do not like to look in the mirror unless i am dressed.

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 02/18/2011




Yes definetly now that situation! I have 3 kids under 5 so my body is definetly not what it use to be pre-babys lol at the end of the day most guys really dont mind stretchmarks :) and remember they do fade! And when it comes to boobs get a really good supportive bra, that always helps boost confidence.

Emily - posted on 02/16/2011




I get deflated thinking about all that too, sometimes, but really there's never been a problem. It's not like we can do anything about it anyway, unless we go down the (expensive, painful, time-consuming) route of plastic surgery. If a guy likes you for you, then he'll be honored if you choose to share your body with him. Scars and all. Obviously anyone you get involved with will know you're a mommy as your son is such a huge part of your life, so if they have any sense at all, they'll know you won't look like a plastic Barbie doll under those clothes! And they won't care. If you've shown you trust them enough to share what's under those layers, they'll be over the moon. One last thing; tell yourself stretch marks are braille for "I love my baby" and they suddenly don't seem so bad :)

Alexandra - posted on 02/15/2011




Oh Sweetie, I think we all go through this, even when we aren't dating someone new. The important thing to remember is that your body brought life into this world and that is something to be damn proud of.

Any decent man (one who will love and accept the fact that you are a real woman, with real curves and flaws) will not care so much about what you look like on the outside. Any man who really loves you will see more than your skin when he looks at you.

If it makes you feel better, if a man makes any comment about your body you find insulting, just point out to him that no one is perfect, we all have flaws (men have hair from head to toe in places they are usually pretty self conscious about too.) and that he doesn't have the perfect male model body either.

Or, if you don't feel comfortable saying such things, then you could choose to date single fathers, who would be more understanding about the physical changes that happen when a woman carries and gives birth to a child.

Instead of looking at yourself in the mirror, and seeing all your post baby body scars and marks, look in the mirror and think about what you DO like or love about your body. Hair, eyes, legs, butt, whatever. The most important thing is that you like who you are as a person, and that you respect yourself, and love yourself (mind, body and spirit). That kind of confidence men find very appealing and sexy.

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