should i enroll my 3 year old son in day care even though my mother takes care of him

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Nikki - posted on 04/03/2009

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Putting my children in a daycare was the best thing I ever did for them. Obviously, in a perfect world, the best thing would be for me to stay home with them and involve them in play groups and such, but since I have had to work, daycare has been WONDERFUL! If pick a good one. I chose one that has certified staff, curriculum they follow, different classes for different age groups and a good security system with cameras in every classroom. My kids used to be really shy and had trouble being separated from me and each other, but now they get interaction with the other kids, the structured environment that prepares them for school and they have fun while learning! And as far as them getting sick....they don't get sick now any more often than they did when my mother was keeping them all day. Just make sure you are very choosy about which daycare to pick. Ask questions about their schedule, curriculum, and especially their discipline techniques. Try to find an established company that has been around for a while. A learning center is great.....they have to follow more government regulations than regular daycare centers do. Overall, I think its a good experience for kids.

Tia - posted on 04/09/2009

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I didn't put my 1st son in daycare and when he started Kindergarten, he had a rough time dealing with all of the stimulation (so many other children) and structure of school. He became withdrawn and I felt it was because he wasn't as socially advanced as some of the other children. Also, he was behind a bit in his reading/writing skills. The school he was in expected the Kindergarteners to be able to read and write their own name, know their phone # and address, tie their own shoes, know their left from right and be able to count to 20...upon entering. I'm sure not all schools are that way, but my 1st son's was.



I was adamant about putting my 2nd son in daycare and it has made all the difference in the world. He reads and writes very well (he's in Kindergarten now), is very comfortable with the structure and social situations involved in the classroom. I know daycare is very expensive...but there are options in some states such as TANF (thru state government run Human Services Dept.s) that will help pay for a portion of  daycare if you're employeed a certain number of hours a week....as well as some states offering a program called Head Start that's for preschool aged children. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

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Daycare will prepare your child for school as well and makes any developmental problems if there are any show up even earlier. The social interaction is amazing but if you can't afford it remember your child will be getting social interaction in school. My son thrives having a variety of activities and change of scenery so daycare makes such a huge difference in him and even improved our interaction together (he is the type to get bored of me quickly if I'm around all the time so since going to daycare I feel he has more fun at home with me than he was before) It all depends on the child too so what will make one child thrive may make another upset, my son didn't have a very difficult time adjusting to daycare (mommy leaving) whereas it took some others a long time to settle. As for getting sick, a big part depends on the age, my son has been in the infant daycare room and gets sick more often than any of the toddlers seem to. Babies put everything in their mouths so I think they are more susceptible than a toddler who can wash their hands and cover a cough you know? It's all up to you, just weigh the pros and cons and do what you feel is best for your child, best of luck :)

Lisa - posted on 04/05/2009

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My mother takes care of my daughter 5 days a week, and I feel so blessed to not have to deal with daycare. Unless your mother is having difficulty taking care of him, I would say no way, the best place for him to be is where he's familiar. If your mother has been taking care of him, they have estalished a familiar routine and he's used to that. If your concerned about him developing social skills there are many other ways you can encourage them, take him to the park, to McDonalds with a play area, even find a play group in your area, if you can take him ask your mom if she would mind. Our local library has toddler time every week.

Andrea - posted on 04/05/2009

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i wouldnt. you dont want to spend money on something your not using. ive tryed it.  daycare is really expensive!! maybe find a backup so your mom can have a break if she needs it.

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Cristina - posted on 04/10/2009

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Quoting Patti:



Absolutely! My kids where in daycare since they where 6 mos old. I HAD to work so I had no choice but I feel the benefits are worth it. Like the other comments it really helps your child socially. And actually as far as the germs go....my kids are hardly ever sick (knock on wood) because they where exposed to alot of different things. Like they worked up an immunity to them. Just make sure you really check these people out before!





thank you soo much for your advised!

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NO!!! not only is it money you dont need to spend, but then your child is learing language you probably dont want him to, learning to kick, spit, hit, and bite to get what he wants. I would suggust to stay with what you have, its a blessing in disguise.

Katie - posted on 04/09/2009

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Day care is an expensive option, but if you get a good one it is all worth it!  I enrolled my daughter when she was 2 1/2 years old.  it was the best thing I did.  She is on a great schedule, learning so incredibly much, getting along with others, is completely potty trained.  Plus having the extended hours helps me too...

Dawn - posted on 04/09/2009

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Hi, i think that even if it is only part time you should put ur son into daycare. My son went to nursery (daycare) from age 19 months until 4yrs when he started school and he went full time as i have to work and i have to say he loved it!! he made loads of friends was perfectly happy and really confident!! to the point i was lucky if i got a goodbye when i dropped him off!! it has also been good for me as i have made friends with some other mums from the nursery and we are still in touch now even though our children go to different schools!

Melissa - posted on 04/09/2009

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Everyone told me to put my son in Day care and for a while he went, but he hated it. Im talking about months on end of crying and just begged not to go. So for his social development I enrolled him in Tumbling during the day at the local gymanstic club and he does story time at the library (Its free) and when the weather is nice, you can even do play dates. There are cheap ways to get him involved socially. Park district has tons of things you can do with your little one. If he is not ready then dont force, he will be ready when its time. Otherwise I would just do a 2-3 day preschool

Cristina - posted on 04/09/2009

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Quoting Heather:

Daycare is ones individual preference. If you can afford it, you feel that your mother could use a day or two to herself and you would like your little one to have interaction with other children then by all means go for it. Many don't like putting their children in daycares because for one the expense, 2, your child will be continualy sick for a while until his ammune system is built up and depending on the age of your child it may take some time for him to adjust. ( I have worked in childcare for 15 years and see this happen often) Those are the the down falls of child care but the positive is, is that your child will have the opportunity to interact with other children before going to pre-school or Kindergarten, making the transition a bit easier plus by the time he does start school his ammune system will be strong and you won't have to go through him missing a bunch of school because of illnesses. The other positive thing about childcare depending on the one you choose to place him in is they may start teaching him things to prepare him for pre-school or kindergarten,



thank you sooo much for your advised...

Cristina - posted on 04/09/2009

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Quoting Crystal:



That really depends... Daycare can be really expensive. If you can afford it I think it would be a good idea even if he is only going half the time... it will help him develop his socail skills...






thank you sooo much for your adviced..........

Cristina - posted on 04/09/2009

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Quoting Crystal:



That really depends... Daycare can be really expensive. If you can afford it I think it would be a good idea even if he is only going half the time... it will help him develop his socail skills...






thank you sooo much for your adviced..........

Patti - posted on 04/06/2009

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Absolutely! My kids where in daycare since they where 6 mos old. I HAD to work so I had no choice but I feel the benefits are worth it. Like the other comments it really helps your child socially. And actually as far as the germs go....my kids are hardly ever sick (knock on wood) because they where exposed to alot of different things. Like they worked up an immunity to them. Just make sure you really check these people out before!

Yasmin - posted on 04/04/2009

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If that is an affordable option, even part time, I think it is beneficial. The social interaction and education from a good day care can be great. The drawback is exposure to other kids' germs, but he'll get it eventually in school anyway. Your mom would probably not mind the break, too. Research the place thoroughly, make sure you are welcome to drop by anytime. Hope this is helpful, and good luck!

User - posted on 04/04/2009

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yes so that he can learn how to solve problems with his friends on his level of development.

Kate - posted on 04/04/2009

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i think its good if u can afford it. if your working, you can get help paying your childcare payments (working tax credit - if your in the UK).



I would suggest that if u do plan to, put your child in for half days. I have my daughter in there 2 full days and 1 half day. The full days are quite tiring for her sometimes, and she used to get very grumpy afterwards (she is 2).



I think its very good for small children on the side of socialising. if you choose a good nursery (direct gov website has most listed on there, and will rate it 'outstanding' etc - if your in the UK! lol)... then they will have access to paint/crafts, outside play areas... etc..



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User - posted on 04/04/2009

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Yeah my son was with a childminder who was a close friend since being 6 months old but when he got a little older i took him once a week to a day centre so he could mingle with the other kids he loved it

Antonia - posted on 04/03/2009

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I think daycare is a neat option for parents.

In regard to what heather said about illnesses, that is generally true, the first year is the toughest but my son has started daycare about 8-9 weeks ago (hes 1 yr old) and there have been several viruses going around, none of which he has caught!

The social development is a strong pro to starting daycare, they learn a sort of pecking order if you like and what is and is not acceptable in another kind of world to their home life.

But as the others said, it is completely up to the parent-- check out some daycare centres and have a tour around them to see if you like them

Heather - posted on 04/02/2009

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Daycare is ones individual preference. If you can afford it, you feel that your mother could use a day or two to herself and you would like your little one to have interaction with other children then by all means go for it. Many don't like putting their children in daycares because for one the expense, 2, your child will be continualy sick for a while until his ammune system is built up and depending on the age of your child it may take some time for him to adjust. ( I have worked in childcare for 15 years and see this happen often) Those are the the down falls of child care but the positive is, is that your child will have the opportunity to interact with other children before going to pre-school or Kindergarten, making the transition a bit easier plus by the time he does start school his ammune system will be strong and you won't have to go through him missing a bunch of school because of illnesses. The other positive thing about childcare depending on the one you choose to place him in is they may start teaching him things to prepare him for pre-school or kindergarten,

Crystal - posted on 04/02/2009

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That really depends... Daycare can be really expensive. If you can afford it I think it would be a good idea even if he is only going half the time... it will help him develop his socail skills...

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