Should I feel quilty

Jamie - posted on 05/18/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I don't if I should feel quilty or not. I am a single mom, but recently have meet someone that makes me smile all the time. Even just thinking about him makes me smile and I can't get him off my mind. I just think of my daughter and wonder if I should put seeing him off b/c of her. I don't know what to do.

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Sarah - posted on 05/21/2009

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I agree with the above posts ..I met a guy 3 years ago and we took it slow and just went with the flow and it was nearly a year before he met my children and i met his(they didn't live with him but same rules apply:) and then we slowly built up relationships with all children concerned..you have to remember just because you like him instantly doesn't mean your child will and they will also need time to get to know each other. But it all worked out and we now all live together.

Hope everything works out for the best and enjoy yourself xx

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I wouldnt say put off seeing him, but dont rush things, and make sure hes gonna stick around before you let him meet her...... i've been seeing this guy since september and he still hasnt met my daughter... i had an ex that i rushed things and my daughter got really attatched and things didnt work out... so just make sure that hes what you want, and he'll stick around. you never know, he could be 'the one'.

Starlane - posted on 05/19/2009

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i think what is more important is to know the guy first..what yo shld consider most is your daughter..if he doesn't love your daugther then i don't think he will like you either..he might just wanna use you..you know.. i guess

Patty - posted on 05/19/2009

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I don't think you should feel guilty unless you are putting your new relationship in front of your daughter. I had to learn the hard way, men will come and go but you'll always have your child and you have to put them first no matter what.

Tameka - posted on 05/19/2009

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Don't be so hard on yourself. Single moms deserve to enjoy dating without feeling guilty. I would just keep in mind that just because you're "dating" doesn't mean your daughter is "dating". In other words unless you are sure that this person is going to be a regular part of your life you should protect your daughter from having to be hurt by getting to know someone new only to have them "disappear" if things don't work out between the two of you. Otherwise have fun.

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