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Megan - posted on 03/25/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Being a single parent is tough, Should I ever date or wait till shes old enough to understand?

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Nichole - posted on 03/25/2009

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Well, I have recently started dating myself, I was engaged for a long time but it didn't work out so now I am in the dating world again. I think if you want to date then you should, I don't introduce anyone to my son and wont until I am very far into a relationship and know they are someone who will be around for the long run, I am not sure if my way is the right way, it is just what my gut says. I think you have to follow what you think is best for your child.

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Ruth - posted on 03/26/2009

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well my eldest is 4 and the baby is nearly 2. i have been single for nearly 2 yrs and have been on a few dates, i never bring anyone home to my house if the children are there, but you need to have fun away from your child for your own sanity if anythin else. You are only human x

Tommie - posted on 03/25/2009

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As long as your baby is first and their needs are met and you're in a place where you are emotionally prepared for a relationship  then go date.  Go out with some girlfriends and play hard to get.  Just keep it something for you and don't bring anyone to your child's life.  Enjoy dating but be smart and safe.

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I'm a single mother of three and have been for 9 years. Dating is tough. My daughters were only about two when I started seeing someone for hte first time. Taking it slow is key. He met the kids when I was confident that the relationship had some long term possibility. And even then we took it slow, he'd come to dinner once or twice a week, we'd go over to his house to dinner or for the afternoon and we'd pepper that with going out when I could find a sitter. I was always cautious about the role that he played in their lives - friend? fatherly? We usually tended towards the attitude of "they have a father but you can never have enough good male role models." I was never really comfortable dating someone and having them spend the night when the kids were home, just thought it was too confusing - but that's a personal choice. My kids are now pre-teens and I'm dating again but I think the same principles apply - take it slow. On top of that, since they're older now, talking to them about what dating is, why people do it, what it means for the kids, what they can expect, how they should address him. Keep the conversation open. Good luck to you.

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