Single Mom , with a lonley Child

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My Child is confiused of his relationship with his Dad , it is not regular , lasts for 5 minuts a day , we live alone , so he can't build a normal pound with him !!!! he is ready to go for the KG 2 on Sept. I don't want him to feel deferent !!!

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Yes it is right mine changes his behaviour too after the visit , maybe becuase he is my only child I want everything to be perfect for him , I hope One day I'll stop blaiming my self too , it has been 3 Years now , and still I feel I am the One who taken all the happy days from my Son , I can't even start going out or doing any exciting stuff for my Child , I feel sorry for him & me all the time , which is not fare , not after whole 3 years .

Katie - posted on 04/14/2009

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i thought this would happen with my little boy but it doesnt is so happy in his life with me he is very out going too which i suppose does help...eventually he will ask my little boy asks now n then were daddy? as heart breacking as it is i find answer that will not upset him too much ...when they are older it will come clear to them why there fathers did what they did ...its not yr fault things ave nturned out this way ...i use to blame myself all the time untill couple of months ago and then i relised it was not my fault he did what he did not me...the very 1st time he asked were his dad was i nearly cried ccos i felt guilty the more he asks the more easier it gets i find....i think as long as you are truthfull with him and you say he is happy child then u cant go wrong...what is he like when seen his father? my 2 yr old has not seen his dad for 2 wks now nothing for easter which has annoyed me u always think one day they will prove u wrong but they dont....my son behaviour changes when he has seen his dad its like he id diffrent boy altogether ....x

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I agree with you , he is Happy but I think he wont be the same when he grows up and starts to think of the reasons "why he has no father around?"  I tried with his Father , it seems he doesn't care "busy with the new woman he got to know " !!!! my main concern now is to have answrs that wony hurt my child , and to make him asnormal as possible even with the non-stable relationship with his father, don't you think it would afftect his personality later on ??  

Katie - posted on 04/14/2009

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My son is 2 and half and has on n off relationship with his father 1 wk to the next , which i hate as its not fair on him but he gets everything he needs from me and my family ....so dont worry there will be other children in the same situation its more common than u think....as long as your child is happy thats all that matters but if u want for them to build a bond trying talking to the father and putting your views accross then u can say you tried yr best...x

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