Stuck in Stupid

Rosanna - posted on 04/14/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




I dated the idiot of a so called man for a very short time in 2004. I knew he had a son from a previous relationship, but didn't really ever see. That should have been my first clue. He broke up with me while we were stranded out of gas in the middle of nowhere nebraska in the middle of the night. Now you would think someone would learn their lesson the first time, but not me. I'm stuck in stupid. Then in late 2005 I got back together with him. We used protection, except once, and wouldn't you know it i got pregnant. At first I was in denial, because I knew it was a mistake to have a kid with such a loser. I blamed the skipping of mother nature's visit to stress, but I was only wishing. I love my daughter to death, wouldn't change having her for anything but wish her father was someone else entirely. During my pregnancy he constantly bugged me about sex, which i turned him down basically everytime. The thought of sex made me sick. He thinks every pregnant woman is a nympho. I knew his true colors were coming through but i didn't want my child to grow up without a father as i had. After underage girls started calling the house, we couldn't keep up on bills, waking up to him do the deed to me, and his way too controlling nature, and my family telling me i needed to get out i left him. at first he made a real point of keeping in touch but now i hear from him about once every other month. even then he just wants to talk about nothing. when he should be talking about our daughter. He didn't even make it to the hospital for her birth, him and his mother wanted me to send them money ahead of time for gas so they would make it up. they finally came up the day we got out of the hospital. they were supposed to be here by about 4pm but didn't actually get here til 7. it was him his mom and his latest fling. him and his mom tried to get us back together but they failed. my daughter is now just over two and has only seen her dad a handfull of times. i feel like such an idiot.


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Candice - posted on 04/24/2009




i try (desperately) to remind myself that it's fate...without mr. idiot i wouldn't have my daughter...and i wouldn't trade her for anything. so thank mr. idiot, and forgive yourself. just look at how many of us are single moms and realize you aren't the only one who chose to have a child with a man who turned out to be useless...and how many beautiful children and strong women resulted from those bad choices.

Brianna - posted on 04/15/2009




wow i feel the pain... im sort of in the same boat that you are.... the father of my unborn son is very similar to the guy you are talking about. things like this happen, but the way my friends and family have put it to me is that eventually there will come a guy who loves you and your daughter to death... it just takes time....

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