Talking to Your Daughter About Sex

Jody - posted on 02/11/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




Hi There,
My daughter will be turning 10 this coming May and I'm having issues with deciding when is the best time to sit her down to have "the talk". I know she's hearing little things around because of little comments and giggles when anything is said. Please, any advice on how to bring this up and what to start with first would be greatly appreciated. Any stories about how you brought it up and how it went would be great to hear as well. I think I should start by asking what she knows about it and what she's heard.



Demetria - posted on 02/11/2009




I have a boy but i think the earlier you have that talk the better. she is at an age where you can use appropriate and to the point laguage with her. Be honest and remember you want her to learn from you not her peers. I am a Community Health Educator and research has shown that comprehensive sexual education decreases a childs chance of engaging in at risk sexual activities and delays their onset of sexual activity. The longer you wait the more at risk she is for uneducated sexual experimentation. Your approach should seem to obtain information fro her about what she already knows ( or thinks she knows) and your job is to tell her the truth. Look up some things on line and visit for statistics information. Good luck.


View replies by

Jennifer - posted on 03/07/2009




I know when i was growing up my mom never talked to me about anything that dealt with sex. I learned everything from my friends and what they told us at school and just from experience. I wish my mom HAD talked to me, i think if she had I wouldn't have DONE anything as early as i did. So all I can say is wether you talk to her now or later, just talk to her. At least if it comes from you, you will know that she is informed correctly.

Sarah - posted on 02/13/2009




my cousin's are 10 and 12 and i dont think you really need to sit them down for "the talk" i think it should be an ongoing open discussion. my mom was really good at talking about sex with me and my younger brother.if a commercial came on tv or we made a comment she would ask us about it.its probably embarrasing for you and her but just save your freakouts for private no matter what she opens up to you about.(thats what we're here for)let her know its ok to be a little embarrased and nervouse but you aren't going to judge her no matter what she thinks or feels.and i personally try on letting my daughter know she has the right to say no and still feel good about herself.hope that helps good luck

Erin - posted on 02/11/2009




My daughter is 11 and a half and we started talking about it a few years ago, when my best friend was pregnant with her son and she wanted to know how that 10 they think they know a lot when really they probably dont know that much but i would just start by asking her if she has any questions and listen to her about what she knows and go from there...i mainly started with the whole puberty thing then moved on to sex basics, we talked about it a little at a time because it does make them uncomfortable at first...good luck...

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms