TEEN PREGNANCY/!?!

Erica - posted on 04/09/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hey everyone, my name is Erica... I am doing a research paper on teen pregnancy and would like to ask a few questions i could hopefully get some feedack to. Teen mothers don't have to respond to this message.. it would also benefit me if mothers at different age ranges to participate in this... Thank you! feel free to be descriptive!



1) What age did you have your first child?





2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?







3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?









4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?











5)What's the best thing about motherhood?











6) Is the father involved?







7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?











8) Do you have a good job?







9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?







10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?







11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?









12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?









13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?











14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?

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Christa - posted on 04/18/2009

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1) I was 19 I had my daughter right after my first year of college

2) I was very afraid and unsure of what to do

3) Yes, I told him. He said he would be there, but began to isolate me from friends and family.

4) Didn't have any

5) My daughter is a wonderful kid.

6) Sometimes, unfortunately he can't make up his mind.

7) Yes, I live with my mother rent free and she helps watch my daughter so that I can go to classes.

8) I work as a nanny so I can take my daughter along. I don't make a lot, but I get to spend time with my daughter and don't have to pay for daycare.

9) No, it's really hard and I still debate if finishing is worth it sometimes. But, I have some great supportive friends who encourage me to keep going.

10) A dad, they can get away responsibility free while mothers can get stuck doing all the work and drying kids tears when the dads don't show.

11) My daughter is a great kid, so I'd be missing out on her, however I think my life would have been much less challenging had she been born a few years later.

12) Yes, I think it's hard to do so much on my own. If I had more help both financially and physically I think things would be easier on me.

13) It can be really tough, but find yourself some good supports and you can get through anything.

14) I'm not really sure, hopefully I will be done school, with me and my daughter living in our own place.

Jill - posted on 04/16/2009

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1) What age did you have your first child? I was 18 when I got pregnant, 19 when I had her.


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? I was scared but happy. A lot of emotions were going on at once.



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react? I told him right after I found out. We were both happy but scared at the same time.



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they? I had hyperemesis and had a low lying placenta. I was 'high risk' but on the very low end of 'high risk'.





5)What's the best thing about motherhood? Those good days where you wake up to your little one giving you hugs and kisses and saying "I love you Mommy" and going to the park and playing together like there's no tomorrow. Knowing that 'yea, I've done a pretty good job so far.' :)





6) Is the father involved? We're not together but yes. He sees her M-F again as he takes her while I go to school since he was just laid off.



7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help? My mom helps out a lot. Not by watching my daughter or anything like that but all the little things that add up - wipes, shampoo, bandaids, all of those things.





8) Do you have a good job? Full time mommy! And I go to school full time.



9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult? No!!! That would be a terrible decision. I am still in college and fully intend on finishing! It is very difficult some days but you just have to keep chugging along.



10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad? Well, I've never been a dad so I don't know. But dads can close their eyes and ears to what's going on - us moms can't. We hear every whine and see every wrong doing and can't not ignore things.



11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children? The best years of my life. Nothing beats having that unconditional love from someone you created. It's so exciting to do all the things you once did as a child but from a different perspective now.




12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful? I think we all struggle in some way. Do I struggle? Yes. With money. At times I wonder how I'm going to pay next month's rent and I really think it would be so much easier if I didn't have that stress.




13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there? Stay in school, seek help from friends/family/counseling if need be. Don't be afraid to ask stupid questions or seek help for what you think people will frown upon. Taking care of yourself as a person and as a mom is the most important thing to maintaining a stable and happy lifestyle for all involved (you, the father, the baby, etc.). Enjoy all the little things!

Janyth - posted on 04/10/2009

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1) What age did you have your first child? I just turned 19 and bout the graduated from high school.
2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? I was scared and and did not know what to do.
3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react? Yes I did tell him and he said that he did not want nothing to do with me or the baby.
4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they? No
5)What's the best thing about motherhood? Is watching them grow up
6) Is the father involved? No
7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?
Yes my family helps me they watch her while I go to work and they let me live with them until I can find a place to live
8) Do you have a good job? it is a part time job it does not pay much
9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult? no I graduated from high school 
10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad? no for neither one
11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children? MY life and spending time with my friends and having some fun but I love my dugther and I would not give her up if I had to.
12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful? No
13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there? Wait until you are ready to have kids of your own. Don't have sex until you are older and ready for kids.
14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years? I don't know I just hope that it is a better life for my daugther and me.

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1) What age did you have your first child?  i was 17 when i got pregnant and she was born 9 days after my 18th birthday.


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?  i was happy... it wasnt planned or anything, but i was happy.. but i was scared to tell my mom.



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react? he was there with me when i found out.... he was happy too.




4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?  nope.. i had morning/all day sickness from about 3 months to the day i had her all day every day tho.. it sucked





5)What's the best thing about motherhood?
having someone that will love no matter what...  watching her grow and learn new things every day.... and all her new words and sayings that she comes up with... and when she says 'I love you mommy'  shes only two so it makes me really happy lol.



6) Is the father involved?
sorta not reallly..... he comes in and out of her life.... hes supposed to see her this weekend, but im not holding my breath..... all the rest of his family is tho.


7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?
yes. i dont know where i would be without their help. they do so much for me... watch her, spoil her rotten, everything. they help me out so much.




8) Do you have a good job?
no... i'm in school in hopes to get a good job tho...

9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?
no... i was 3 months pregnant at my high school grad... .. and i started college in feb. and its not bad... gotta keep your time organized...  and my mom helps out when i need to study and everything.


10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?
mother..... even tho i do everything for her, i dont know it any different cause her 'father' has never done anything for her.


11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?
probably alot but i don't regret it or want anything different.  i wouldnt change it at all.




12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?
nope. im doing the best i can, and we're doing perfectly fine getting by.



13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?
it's hard but its so worth it...   don't be scared to ask for help..... and sleep when their sleeping for the first little while .lol.




14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?  happy.... hopefully with a couple other little ones running around.

Melissa - posted on 04/10/2009

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Quoting Erica:

TEEN PREGNANCY/!?!

Hey everyone, my name is Erica... I am doing a research paper on teen pregnancy and would like to ask a few questions i could hopefully get some feedack to. Teen mothers don't have to respond to this message.. it would also benefit me if mothers at different age ranges to participate in this... Thank you! feel free to be descriptive!

1) What age did you have your first child?  27


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?  Scared, we hadn't planned for her


3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?   I just told him...he was very quiet, I wasn't sure how he was going to react...but after alittle while he said he was glad.



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they? no



5)What's the best thing about motherhood? listening to the giggles and how well my two get along.  teaching them about life and how to survive on their own.



6) Is the father involved?   on his weekends


7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other   ways you get help?   My parents help out alot, watching them when I'm at school or work, dropping them off at school, etc,



8) Do you have a good job?  no, just a partime thing with a friend and about to pick up another.



9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?   No



10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?   Dad



11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children? The sheer joy of the discovery of things.




12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?   Yes, I lost my job last June, I've gone back to school to improve my job situation.




13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?  Live to teach your kids the right things, you have plenty of time to play when they are older.



14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?  Having the time of my life!!!


 

Stephanie - posted on 04/10/2009

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Hey



1) I was 17 when i had my little boy



2) I was so SCARED!!!



3) I did he wanted me to get rid of it, but i wouldnt so he first agreed to be there for me and the baby but then decided a few months down the line he didnt want anything to do with us...



4) I had a brilliant pregnancy, but my son was born with a few complications, He has Epilepsy, and a few others things...



5) I think everything, theres not a day that goes by when he does something new, which makes me smile, i love everything about it...



6) NO



7) Ive got great support from my mother, sisters, brother, nan and my friends and their families. They do anything for us from babysitting him when i need a break, when he's in hospital they watch him so i can go home to get fresh clothes and so on....



8) No i dont work at the moment....



9) No i didnt drop out i was finished school in the May and i had him in the July, so there was no need to...



10) 100% easier to be a dad, they can come and go as they please, or just have no contact what so ever....



11) Nothing really only that i could be out working, but still i wouldnt change it for the world....



12) No im not struggling, i pay my rent and bills on time so they dont get on top of me, make sure there food in the cupboards, and that my son needs for nothing, i wouldnt get out all the time but once the bills are paid and hes got everything and i have money to spare i try to get a night out or in with the girls once a month...



13) Dont give up on your education, dont be afraid to ask for help....



14) Hopefully with a good job and in a good relationship...

Mandy - posted on 04/10/2009

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1. I was 24 when i had my daughter



2. I was scared and excited. I didnt know what to do because it was realllly bad timing, but at the same time i was excited because i was told i couldnt have kids.



3. I told the father. He broke up with me and wants nothing to do with his daughter.



4. Everything was fine during the pregnancy, and after.



5. Seeing her grow, smile and when she hugs me.



6. No



7. Nobody really helps me out. I live with my mom but she dosent help out very much.



8. No i am currently unemployed



9. Wasnt in school, but my mom had me at 17 and did drop out.



10. A dad because you can walk away if thats what you wanted. You dont have to be as involved. You dont have to go through the pain of childbirth.



11. Everything about her. Watching the life i created grow, play, love, and be happy. I wouldnt be so motivated to do better for us either.



12. Yes, finantially. I need a job. But at the same time im afraid of daycare.



13. Hang in there.



14. I have no idea. Id hope with a caring peron who will love me and my daughter. and maybe with a few more kids. BUT i will never do it alone again

Angela - posted on 04/09/2009

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1. I was 16 when I had my daughter



2.I was extremely scared!!!



3.yes i did I told him after she was born,he was shock and wanted a blood test



4.no



5.I did know that I could love some one so much until i became mother



6.not really



7.yes they do and have been there all a long



8.It is ajob it



9.yes but went back



10.one is not easier than the other. I have a friend and he is a single father



11.nothing



12.no



13.STAY FUCUS AND GET YOUR EDUCATION !!!!!!!!!!



14.RELAXING ,by then my daughter will be out of college!!

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hey happy to help.



1. I was 17 when i had my son.



2. I was scared when i found out. I had no idea what to do.



3. I did tell the father and he told me he didnt want anything to do with it. he still feels the same 3 yrs later



4. I had something called HELPP syndrome. Its a severe form of pre-eclampsia.



5. Watching them sleep and grow and knowing you did that. you actually created a human being.



6. He isnt



7. My parents, my 2 sis and his fathers brother and sister in law help me out to no end. they babysit, change, wash, feed him wen i need a hand. they are also there for emotional support.



8. I didnt have a job when i got pregnant but i am now working part time.



9. I did drop out but i regret it. I should have stayed. I was worried what people would think but everyone was kool about it.



10. I would have to say from my situation definitely a dad because he had the choice to walk away. I had to deal with it. i enjoy it tho.



11. The joy of raising them and teaching them things. its the small things. like when they say a new word or start walking or do something funny.



12. I dont think im struggling. I have a lot of support so that helps massively.



13. Dont be scared to ask for help. everyone needs help sometimes.



14. With a school age child. lol. hopefully with another one but with someone who wants a family and will be there for me and the child.

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