The dad that thinks he does MORE

Susan - posted on 02/22/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have become increasigly irritated with my daughter's father. He has 2 children from a previous marriage and we share a daughter. None of his children live with him full-time. He has our little one Mondays and Tuesdays from 4:30 - 8:30. He has his older 2 Wednesdays from 5 - 8. He has them again every other weekend Saturday am - Sunday pm along with out little one on these Sundays.

He does not manage their care, school, doctor's appointments or activities. He does not put them to bed, shop for them or plan their menu for a week. He does not know teacher names, attend school conferences, baseball practice, doctor's visits or "fill -in" in an emergency. He comes home to an empty house that is emmaculate, can get his laundry put away in the same day and has a standing night off every Thursday where he refuses to keep a kid.

Somehow, with all of this he is under the impression that he has it hard and resents the fact that I have freinds and family who are incredibly helpful. He fails to understand that if I want a day, evening, hour to myself I need to organize it (usually in advance) and it is limited if they are available. he is the only parent I have met that gets a "time -out" yet he walks around like father of the year.


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Laura - posted on 02/24/2009




my ex lives 1300 miles away, sees the kids maybe 2x a year. Pays NONE of his court ordered child support. He STILL chastises me for not having the kids call him more. can you BELIEVE it??

Susan - posted on 02/23/2009




Not only do I go easy on the support, I deal with irrational behavior/ All that is missing is the pounding on the chest like an ape.


He is not a bad guy just super selfish and damaging to his kids. To teach his ex a lesson he went back to the original custody agreement after 4 years of keeping them extra days. He does not see nor accept the damage he is doing to the older two. he blames that on his ex too.


Thanks ladies...nice to vent.

Claire - posted on 02/23/2009




hiya. my ex is also just as bad.he has our 2 children every other weekend and perhaps if he can be bothered come and see them once a week. he always likes to make out that the children never play him up when they are with him and that running a house and looking after children is easy.although im sure if the kids lived with him full time he would soon change his mind!!

Nathalie - posted on 02/23/2009




Oh I know how you feel. My ex thinks he does more then he actually does. He has our 2 children 4 nights a fortnight and he thinks I am making it hard for him when I say I would like it to be just him and the kids.


He complains when it is just him watching the kids he can't cook, clean or even take a shower because it is too hard. When I reply that I do it all the time he responds with "but you live with your parents and they help all the time" even when they don't.


The only way he will ever see that I can do things on my own is when I get a house of my own (which I am getting close to). I don't know how to tell him he isn't doing a lot in his childrens lives. He doesn't know friends names, doesn't want to be at doctors appointments etc but then accuses me of lying when I tell him what the doctor said....

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