The Father of my Daughter

Sydnie - posted on 07/09/2017 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I got pregnant in May of 2016 and the father has not seen me since the day I told him I was pregnant. I offered for him to come to doctor's appointments and help with the name, etc. However, he continued to cancel on me or say we didn't need to meet in person to talk about the baby. I delivered a beautiful baby girl in February and found out that he had gotten someone else pregnant, who was just born. He must have forgotten the name I had decided because he gave his 2nd child the same middle name as mine... but my daughter is now 5 months old and he has never met her and has only called me once demanding my address, which I didn't feel comfortable giving him. He is not on the birth certificate, does not pay any child support, and has not served me papers. My question is, how long does he have to serve me to establish paternity and try to see her? I fear he will pop up in a few years and cause a lot of unnecessary pain and heartbreak for my babygirl.

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Sydnie - posted on 07/12/2017

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If he did not agree to sign the affidavit of paternity, he cannot be listed. As a single mother who does not qualify for assistance, I am not paying to take him to court. His money is not important.

Sydnie - posted on 07/10/2017

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It is not fraud. I did not push him away, alienate him, or keep him out. He CHOSE not to come to the hospital, any doctors appointment, or to see her after she was born. A birth certificate must be signed by both parents. If a man does not show up to sign, it cannot be added and I will not spend thousands of dollars forcing him to pay for a child he did not care about or put him on the birth certificate allowing him the right to make decisions even though he isn't around. He did not do his part when I tried to make things easy, now in order for him to be on the birth certificate or get visitation, he has to take the initial steps. Once again, you are not answering my question. You are being overtly opinionated and aggressive. He is a grown man and can step up if he chooses. I should not have to drag him into being a father. My question is how long does he have to step up and establish paternity.

Sydnie - posted on 07/10/2017

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You can't put someone on the birth certificate if they are not there. I went through the entire 9 months of pregnancy and so far 5 months without him or any assiatance. Insurance, daycare, food, housing.. i have gotten it all without his help. I do not want child support. I am not going to force a man to be a parent. My daughter deserves someone who chooses to love her. My question is still how long does he have to establish paternity? For instance, can he come in 3 years later and decide he wants rights?

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