Kristina - posted on 01/05/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )
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Ok so this is how it all started my ex and i got together a year after he divorced his wife which was 3yrs ago. we were together for almost 2 1/2 yrs before i got pregnant. He was all lets get a place together and be together. I told him that my son would have my last name until we decided to get married if we decided to. He wanted to get married just because he wanted him to have the same last name. I told him no, i was so moody when i was pregnant. When i was 5mo. i found out i was having a boy and his ex-wife decided she wanted him back and he left me for her. She thought we were still together. We did not see each other until the day after i had my son when his ex had someone from the hospital call her and tell her that my son was born and she came up and saw him in the nursery the whole hour and a half that he was there since i decided to have him room in after he was born. She is an OB nurse where i had my son and was not working until 3days after i had him. His dad didn't sign the birth certificate, did not hold him until he was a month old. My ex's mother was much better she wanted to see him all the time and i was pumping and letting her spend time with him every other tuesday until my ex got a new girlfriend and decided he wanted to see my son to impress her and he was also taking this new girlfriend to see my son. When i was invited by his mother to her thanksgiving i said yes since the family had not seen the baby recently. Of course my ex threw a tantrum about this he wanted to bring his new girlfriend and didnt want me or his son there. He didnt see this side of the family untl his dad called a few days before christmas and asked to see him i was in a good mood so i said yes. this was a big mistake, because he had went to the courthouse a week before christmas and a week after our fight. and married his girlfriend (who he only has known since august). He was supposed to see my son at his mothers house, but he took him to their house w/o asking. I am not trying to be moody, but trying to protect my son from their arguments and his new wifes bad temper. She bashed my ex's head into a metal shelf just a few weeks ago.
Do i have a right to protect my son from someone who doesn't really want him?
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Janell - posted on 01/05/2010
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You have every right to be mad. I would be just as mad if that happened to my baby girl!!
Jackey - posted on 01/05/2010
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We are blessed with womens intuition..If you think that your son isn't safe with his father, then your son has to depend on someone to protect him and that is you. Dont worry about hurting anyone's feeling, because your are trying to protect your son. You really should not have your son in that kind of environment where there is fighting and arguing. And from what you said about the father, he doesn't seem like he has grown up. He isnt stable with his relationships, so how can he teach his son anything. Dont ignore that gut feeling. God could be telling you something you keep your son safe.
Rebeccah - posted on 01/05/2010
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you have every right to be upset and you are completely justified.