Visitation

Jenna - posted on 03/20/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi my name is Jenna and i have a 15 month old son! His father is taking me to court for visitation. I have never told him that he couldn't see Isaac. He is the one that chose to only visit once or twice a month. I do not want him to take my son to his house because everyone living there smokes and they have 3 indoor dogs. I want to keep my child in a smoke free environment because that is what is best for him. His father also was arrested for indecent exposure. He also has anger issues and yells at my son for no reason. He doesn't understand that babies don't sleep until noon and watch tv for hours. I dont have a problem with him seeing Isaac i just don't want Isaac at that house around all the smoke and animals. Is it possible to get visitation at my house? Or even at another family members house that would be safer for Isaac? I really need some advise so please comment!

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Jenna - posted on 03/24/2010

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Thanks for the advise! I talked to my lawyer today and we are going for supervised visits at his aunts house. So i hope it works out that way. I just want to do whats best for my son and i want him to be in the safest environment possible. Right now i just feel like since it's not their kids the judges don't care what the kids are around. My son is just as important as any judges kid and i feel that if the judge isn't comfortable sending his kids with my son's dad then my son shouldn't have to go either.. I know it doesn't work like that, but I am just really concerned about the well being of my child.

Amber - posted on 03/24/2010

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I went threw the same thing except my babys daddy was charged with drugs. and the house he is living in with his girlfriend just got raided and i brought it up to the judge and she told me that our son is not allowed to be around drugs.. even tho i asked for supervised rights... she denied me cuz she said that our son needs to know his father on a one to one basis... and that she didnt believe that he wud harm his son.. so if anything get a laywer... there expesive but u might get what u want.. and not having a laywer.. he will get everything he asks for... and when they bring up the tax credit make sure if u agree to it ... that he can claim ur child if he is up to date on his child support.. big plus there many guys dont stay current.. good luck..

Marlo - posted on 03/20/2010

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Bottom line is that for this you will need a lawyer. You can get visitation limited but, unless he agrees, you will need a third party to come forward and support your concerns (ie: home inspections by a DCF worker; his familly memebers testimony, etc.). With his arrest you may have a shot but find a way to get an indpenedent advocate. I did this for my son when he was little and as time has gone on his dad finally grew up, re-married and now is able to have him every other weekend in a safe environment. I wish you luck.

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