Visitation Rights....

Rosie - posted on 03/17/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




So I had my baby in October, at the time his father and I were still together. Right after Thanksgiving we ended our relationship...during that time he asked me if he could take the baby for overnight stays, I told him the baby was too small for overnights, other than that i had concerns about him not getting up to feed him. I did tell him he was free to visit him whenenver he wanted to. Well, the thing was i thought he would show me he would be capable to take the baby for overnights but he was very flaky and hardly came around. He even went, almost a month w/out seeing the baby, which bothered me very much, becuse there was numerous times that I told him I wanted him around. So in February, I received court documents, stating he wants visitation rights... ok so we went to court March 4th and we didnt agree on anything!!! So now we have to see a Judge so he could appoint visitation rights....We didnt agree on anything becuase he wanted him on weekends which is totally unfair becuase i do have a full-time job! He hasn't really helped me, a few times he has brought diapers, formula and clothes for him. So now we go back to court on the 19th of April and I just wanted to know how visitation laws work when the child is 5 months old. And should I get a lawyer??? Help please!


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Gwen - posted on 03/18/2010




Get a lawyer and if you can try and go back and document everything. When he showed up, when he didn't, what he brought you, given you any money. Everything. Also in all reality you want primary placement of your child and custody is different. But really DOCUMENT EVERYTHING you can!

Deanna - posted on 03/18/2010




Definitely get a lawyer. It will help you maneuver through the court system. I think that every state has different visitation laws and every judge reacts differently. Pray you do not get a jerky judge like I have who is a divorced dad who speaks of this on the bench and helps out dead beat dads. My only suggestion is always try to show that you want the father involved and offer suggestions that are fair to you as well. It always helps when you show that you are not trying to screw the father. I feel your pain, my ex wanted overnights, but I have been able to keep that from happening, but I do not know how long I can keep that from happening. Keep your cool and do the best you can. Good luck!

Alison - posted on 03/17/2010




I would get a lawyer. My daughter was eight months old when I was separate from my ex. This how works in Wisconsin. First week he picked at 5pm on Wesday till Thursday at 5Pm. The next week was Friday at 5Pm till Sunday 5Pm. There will be holiday think about that too.

Mary - posted on 03/17/2010




I would deffinatly atleast talk to a lawyer so you know what your rights are and what he can get away with.

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