what do you tell a 5 year old when there dad is no longer around where he is?

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Crystal - posted on 03/17/2009

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Depends on why he's not around... if it's likely that your son will see him again then just say he's at work. If he won't see him then he's moved away or something...

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Sarah - posted on 03/20/2009

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ur a brave woman, dont know how i wud cope with that, my ex is miles away from me yet i stillpanic at how ill react if i everbumped into him!!daft after 10 years but the worry is always ther at the back of my mind that after no conatct with my daughter since she was 23 month old and that was for 5 minutes. The greatest gift you can give a man his a child yet some men just dont know how god damn lucky they are or what they are missing out on. Im not ashamed to be a single mom didnt choose to be but i know that im doing a good job and his loss.your kids will grow up to know that he had a chance being so close to them yet never used it. Theyl also know that you were there for them vereytime they were ill, hurt, sad or happy and that you love them.

Jackie - posted on 03/19/2009

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hi that is all ok to say that daddy is at work but my childrens daddy only lives 2 doors away from us things have got easier over the last year they now dont ask as much and he doesnt even speak to them if and when he does see them and my kids ages are 6 -4-3

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2009

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sometimes it does seem easier to tell the lies to protect the kids from the truth of feeling unwanted and unloved but i feel honesty is the best policy because i know that when she is older she will be more aware of what happened and i dont want her to feel ive lied to her for years bout his whereabouts when iv brought her up to always tell the truth, i dont want her to say im a hypocrite and a liar, i love her too much to hurt her in that way, being a parent is hard enough with a partner but to do it alone is even more so especially when you feel like giving up cos the kids drive you crazy then they do something simple like hug you n everyrthing feels better, i cried myself to sleep countless nights at the start when i was alone n scared but soon realised that if i couldnt do the one thing i needed to do i wasnt worthy of my child. im proud of how ive raised her alone without the emotional and financial support of her da. Be proud of your kids and they will know that you have done everything possible for them to live a happy safe life.

Gillian - posted on 03/19/2009

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that he is working very hard and not able to see them just now, i have just had to say that to my son last year

Cindy - posted on 03/18/2009

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I've said to my daughter that her dad lives far far away/..mostly true.



 



I do aim to tell her the truth, and I do, but I dont elaborate on details, I think our kids need to know the truth in easy terms for them to understand

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2009

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I'm not sure what to say. But all I can tell you

is try and be strong. I am in the same boat right now and it sucks.

Demetria - posted on 03/18/2009

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My exhubby is gone and has been missing since the birth of my 6 year old. I ignored the fact untill he started asking questions at age 5. I then told him the truth that he was in California. I simply answer the questions as honestly as they are asked. He asked me where does he live. I say California. He then asked why he does not live with us. I say because he does not want to live with us for his own reasons. He asked me if i loved him (the dad). I said mommy loves everyone just like Jesus does. He asked me why doesnt he come to see me. I said "i dont know, would you like to ask him? and then he calls him. Long story short, dont take that burden upon yourself to explain if you dont have to. And if you have to ..be honest and supportive and let them know it is not their fault

Michelle - posted on 03/18/2009

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i try to stick as close to the truth as possible so it doesnt come back on me later, but i do keep it simple and easy to understand. also i try not to let my own feelings complicate things for him. good luck.x

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2009

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try to b honest with her as much as possible without giving up too much detail of what he did, and also maybe explain to his mum that you werent comfortable with her telling your child the truth

Vickie - posted on 03/17/2009

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I'm in the exact same situation. I have a 5 year old daughter and her dad was abusive to us and has not been around for and year and a half. When she asks me where he is or when he's coming back I just tell her that he moved and its not her fault that he left.

Crystal - posted on 03/17/2009

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i had a smilar problem... fourtunatly for me my kids were still too young to ask much and he was only in jail for a couple days (over crouded correctional and slight break of contitions) anyways i had desided should my daughter (3 at the time) ask where he was i would say that daddy had done something bad and was in a really long time out but will come to see her when he gets out of it. I'm assuming that he's gonna come see her when he does get out? I'd just exlpain that jail is kinda like a long time out. it's easier for them to understand.

Emma - posted on 03/17/2009

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he's in prison and due to be released and have told her that he's been working away up till now but someone (his mum) has told her where he is and dont know how to deal with it

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