When and how is a good time to tell your ex that you're dating?

Brooke - posted on 01/15/2019 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I left an emotionally abusive and sometimes physically abusive marriage about a year and a half ago. We are not legally divorced yet, but that is the plan. When we split, I left because he saw I was emotionally cheating with someone else. He asked for me back, and owned up to how he made me feel but I chose to not return to such a demoralizing relationship. (Please leave the judgment at the door)

I took a break once me and my ex split, but recently I have continued to date him. When and how is it a good time to tell my ex? I know NOTHING about my ex's personal life, he's not comfortable with being open with anyone so I don't think he would tell me willingly if he was dating too. I have our child 5 days a week and my ex has him Saturday - Sunday. My ex does not care for our child during the week (his choice) and does not pay child support. We do not have a custody order since we have not gone to Court yet.

My biggest concerns that give me anxiety is that he will try and become more of a Disneyland dad, will try and passive aggressively control me and how I spend my time with our son, etc. His entire family lives in town and I reside with his sister (long story - they don't have a SUPER close relationship), and I have no one in town to support me.

Any help is appreciated!

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