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Lindsey - posted on 02/01/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My son is almost 11 months old now and his "sperm donor father" hasn't seen him since he was about 5 months old. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months now and he has accepted my son as his own, which is wonderful. I was just curious about everyone else's situations with new boyfriends and how they do or don't accept your children and to what degree the biological dad is involved.


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Karen - posted on 09/19/2011




I have an 11 month old boy and his father is rarely there(financially, physically) . even though he says he wants to be in his life, I dont see it. I have been in relationship with my bf since i was pregnant and things r wonderful! He and my son get a long, he plays with him, cares for him and has decided to accept him as his own. However, my ex hates this! I wish my ex and bf got along for my son but my ex doesnt want to. It something i stress over constantly. All i know is whether my ex like it or not, my son and i are going to be happy apart from him. good luck to everyone!

Emily - posted on 05/21/2011




I have a 21month old son and his father has only seen him 3 times. He is not a part of our lives and I believe he is giving me and my son the best chance at happiness this way. I have been with my current boyfriend for 8 months and with my sons real father out of the way they have been able to truly bond like they never would have if there were two men in Ben's life! A word of advice becareful with how fast you move things. I know the temptation that is there being a single mom and finding a guy who says he wants to be ther. But for your childs sake you want to be cautious because you dont want them to lose another person. Also, you should have big talks now about how they would raise their own kids if they had any so you can see if your parenting styles match up! This is a very big deal that you both agree on disapline! Also, don't become blind and allow yourself to settle with someone because its "too hard" to date. You are not only looking to find someone that completely loves you, but that can also love your child as their own and would never treat them differently than their own children! Good luck to everyone. Its hard I know that, but I also know its out there.

Malina - posted on 09/08/2010




my son is almost 8 months now and i've been seeing this guy since i was about 7 months pregnant. his dad is very much involved in his life and he has his "step dad" too. both are great, loving dads and i think its great to have as many positive male figures in a boy's life as possible

Tiffany - posted on 09/06/2010




me and my husband split about 2mth ago now and at first it was hard i have started to date some one now for 2 weeks and i no its only early days but i rele like him and he tells me he wants to be with me 4ev@ and will take leon on as his own to a extent as his dad still sees him i think my son would be better off with out his real dad but will have to let him decided that as he is only nearly 2 but i allways worry that my bf will find it hard with my son anypointers plz

Justine - posted on 07/07/2010




My boyfriend of a year on and off but now we are staying together for good absolutely loves my daughter he was the only there for me when I was pregnant my daughter father does not Wang anything to do with her makes me sad but then again happy because my boyfriend now can and does take her as his own her father has said he wants to be apart sometimes but never comes and sees her and I know she would be better of with her thinking my boyfriend is her daddy she already calls him Dada so we are getting her to see who is really going to be her daddy in the long run

Claire - posted on 05/03/2010




Hi Lindsey, my partner loves my sons like they were his own. Always plays with them, buys them toys, clothes etc. Their 1 now, they don't know any different, but their biological has no contact with them, dosn't send any money for them, basically has nothing to do with them, which i find very upsetting and sad!
I have been dating my partner for 6 months now, and things are going smoothly, he is away a lot, as he is in the army, but when he is home, it's nice to go out as a family :~)

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