Any ideas how to stop a two year old shouting all the time :(

Mandy - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son will be 3 in september, and recently he just screams all the time. Instead of asking me for more juice which he is more than capable of doing (Can talk clearly in sentences) he will just scream and shout and cry (not real tears just noise) wanting me to get him juice or whatever it is. I ask him to come and ask mummy, and i refuse to get him what he wants untill he is calm and asks me nicely. This works at the time but hasn't not stopped him shouting/screaming everytime he wants something, from more juice to a toy he dropped or to tell me he likes the song/cartoon that is on.



I finding it very stressful and am at my wits end! I just find myself losing my temper with him mor and more and snaping at him which i know will only make matters worse!



Any Ideas?

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Anne - posted on 07/13/2009

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I think you doing rite thing totally ignore him til he talks properly. He testing you to see if you will break. He will get over it honestly when he sees it not working. :) it sounds like warfare sometimes it feels like it lol.

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Warn him that if he continues screaming his demands then you will pay no attention to him, until he asks you in a nice voice. After the warning, every time he screams, rather than asks ignore him. He should get the message that screaming doesn't work and that asking does. If the gets to the stage that you can't ignore, give him a warning that if he screams his demand then he will be put in time out. Put on a chair/bottom step/safe place until he calms down. I think the current suggestion is a minute for every year of his age. When he's done his time out - explain why he's been put in time out and ask for an apology.



Be consistant with the method that you use. He'll soon learn that it's not worth his time/effort to have tantrums/scream his demands at you (or anyone). It sounds like a classic - let's test my Mum's boundaries tactic. Remember - keep to your boundaries and expectations that you have of him. Praise him lots of for the behaviours that you want and ignore (to the best of your ability) his bad behaviours. By not getting rewards/reactions for his bad behaviours and but getting them for the good ones, he'll come round to your way of thinking and drop (hopefully) the behaviours you don't want him to have.

Laura - posted on 08/15/2010

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hi i had/have the same problem with my four almost 5 year old daughter when she was younger and i did the same thing ur doing and it worked eventually just stick with it unfortunately she started again when i had my son in February and i have been using the same techniques again and its workin i know it hard just stick with it and try to stay calm and it will pay off good luck

Anne - posted on 07/13/2009

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I think you doing rite thing totally ignore him til he talks properly. He testing you to see if you will break. He will get over it honestly when he sees it not working. :) it sounds like warfare sometimes it feels like it lol.

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