HOW TO COPE WITH A TRAVELLING HUSBAND?

DENISE - posted on 11/05/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi there everyone! I am married and have a son of 3 years. The husband and I are faced with a tough decision which would have him away from us on work for 3months at a time and back for only a week. Anyone out there with a smiliar situation?

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Nicole - posted on 09/09/2016

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Hi I have the same issue and it's really tough my daughter is 5 and a daddy's girl she really had it tough even having to adjust everytime he leaves but I tend to make her play around his stuff and explain that daddy has to go away in order to buy her anything she wants. It's bad at night cause she won't sleep without speaking to him so I have done a voice record of him speaking to her and play it to her every night.

Renee - posted on 05/19/2016

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Hi Cyndi,

I just came on this site for some encouragement myself and saw your somewhat recent post. I'm a stay at home mom and I was thinking that if I had a job right now while my husband is traveling then it would take my mind off of it. Your post makes me think otherwise. ha. It's just tough overall when our guys are gone. You have a lot on your plate! How are things going? Did you get moved and all?

My husband just started traveling around 4 months ago after basically not traveling the whole 10 years we've been together. He did not have to travel for work. He chose to in order to gain attention from the higher ups in an effort to move up and make more money. Seems noble and all, but I am having a hard time adjusting. I think he needs to be here more for our 9 yr old son. He's gone 10 days and home 2-3 typically. I know that compared to some this would be a piece of cake, but this is me and my life and it super sucks in my opinion.

I want to be more supportive, but I just don't know how to wrap my mind around this better than I am. It's caused a lot of stress on our marriage. Ugh. You posted a few months back; have you found any 'gold nuggets' of info/advice to help wives like us out?

I hope things have gotten less stressful for you!
Renee :)

Cyndi - posted on 02/11/2015

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Hello all,
FIrst time posting on here in a long time. I was looking for support groups and circle of moms came up so here I am.

I just want to vent.

My husband and I have been married for 11 years, we have 2 daughters, 8 and 11. I work full time, and now, hubs is working 3 hours away all week and only gets to come home on weekends. We are in the process of selling our home and buying a new one, in a new city, new neighborhood, new schools for the kids. I am extremely stressed out, and sad at night when Im in bed, alone.
I truly love this man with all my heart and I miss him so badly.
I am mad at his company for not caring that these men have families they need to be there for.
I feel overwhelmed.
I keep myself busy in the evenings, and at the same time, try not to neglect our girls, because of everything that needs to be done.
I don't know what to do. I feel lost without him and need strength. Theres so much to do all the time and I pull my hair out trying to keep up with it all.
I cant handle only being able to be with him only 8 or 10 days a month. Its just not enough.
I am trying to suck it up and put my big girl panties on.
I have very little family here.
I am just so sad.
Thanks for listening.

Kimberly - posted on 11/24/2013

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Wow wow on a row that's freaking. My husband does that too but not as long as 3 month and home for just a week

Siphelele - posted on 05/16/2013

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That can be frustrating, mine travels a lot. like every week. if he is home it is just for a day or 2. even when he is around he works till late. worse he plans to keep the current job for the next 4 years. i dont know if i can cope. it drives me mad at times. bt i console myself by saying he is working for us.

Flower - posted on 11/22/2012

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I haven't had such long stretches but I did have 7 months with an infant when my husband was traveling from Sunday to Thursday. It was very difficult as I basically became a single mom. If it helps keep your family finances stable - then you kind of have to do it. All I can say is FaceTime , Skype, instant messaging and other things helped a lot. I also reached out to friends quite a bit. I hope the job won't be a permanent gig - because that can be stressful.

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