10 month old won't sleep thru the night

Stevee - posted on 08/20/2010 ( 42 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies,my husband and I have a 5 year old daughter and a 10 month old baby boy.
My daughter was sleeping thru the night by 3 months old.I wish I could say the same
for my son!! He gets up 1-2 times a night,sometimes he has a bottle,sometimes he doesn't want it at all. I am at a loss as what to do next.I just can't understand why he is still getting up at this point?

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Sally - posted on 08/26/2010

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I regret to inform you that your daughter was the anomaly and your son is the more 'normal' child.
The AAP definition of 'sleeping through the night' is midnight to 5 am. Very few babies can do it at all before 6 months and almost none can do it regularly before 4 months. Many, many babies don't do it until they are at least 1 year, sometimes longer.
How much time does he spend with you during the day? Babies NEED a certain amount of mom time and it's different for every baby. He may be higher needs than his sister or he may be busier during the day and want his mom time later.
My now 6 year old started sleeping with me at 7 months because I had to work full time and she needed her mom time at night. Not having to ully wake to nurse her gave me so much more rest that my now 10 month old has slept with me since birth. If you don't want a baby in your bed, even having his crib in your room may help At least you won't have to travel as far to get him when he wakes.
Many hospitals strongly recommend avoiding Babywise. Taking that program without a large grain of additional common sense leads to babies in the hospital from malnourishment.
Good luck

Kirsten Veronica - posted on 08/21/2010

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Be very careful of the Babywise books. They are actually recommended against by the American Academy of Pediatrics as they are quite detrimental and tend to result in failure to thrive. Yes many families "do fine" with them, but in general the authors methods are contrary to what mothers and babies actually need. Strict schedules are not for the growing baby. http://www.ezzo.info/Articles/ezzo-babyw...

Also the newborn version of "sleeping through the night" is four or five hours. Not the eight or nine most adults require. This is simply human nature, regardless of formula or breastfeeding (although breastmilk and breastfeeding generally results in more nighttime wakings, NOT a bad thing). Think of the evolutionary benefits to night waking and try to experience the world like your baby. You are vulnerable and fragile and exposed. So you wake up to make sure Mommy is there! You make sound so Mommy wakes up and makes sure you are safe. This is normal, needed and appropriate. And it will not last. Your baby will sleep through the night eventually, but will only be a baby for a blink.

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My 1 year old wakes up a lot through the night as well. Sometimes more than 3 times. I think I have spoiled him and now I am paying for it. He sleeps in the bed with my husband and I. He is getting older and I haven't had a nights sleep in such a long time. I read Laura Hoffman's reply and it almost made me cry. It's so true, I have an almost 11 year old son and a 9 year old daughter who seem like they were born yesterday. I really didn't get to enjoy them being babies because at that time I was a party animal. Now that I am 30 and married to a wonderful guy I don't even go out anymore and sadly I am enjoying my new son so much. It makes me feel so sad that I didn't feel this with my older children. Of course I love them so much, but I just can not explain. I'm sure some of you know what I am talking about. I sometimes wish I could go back in time and make better memories. Anyway's Laura I just wanted to say thanks for reminding me that they all grow up so fast. I need to stop complaining and just enjoy every bit of it. I hope all of you can realize the same and enjoy the little things.

Daisy - posted on 08/25/2010

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My son now 11 months old still to this day when he is not teething wakes up at least two times a night but basically once you put the pacifier in his mouth, he is out. Now he is waking up alot and crying because he does not have any teeth and he is teething really hard. Other than that i stopped giving him a bottle since about 5 months, now the only problem we have is that he is a super early riser, 5, sometimes 6am...

Danielle - posted on 08/25/2010

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My son is also 10 months and had been waking once a night, without fail and wouldn't go back to sleep without a bottle of milk. I decided to try playing white-noise (which I had started using for his day sleeps a couple of months ago as those were atrocious) on repeat all night and he has slept through every night since I tried that. I don't know if it would work for all babies but it might be worth a try. Note that you might need to find the right noise for your baby too, the first one I tried when I started with his day sleeps didn't work, then I tried another and it works like a charm. That was the vacuum recording available at http://www.babywhitenoise.com/baby_vacuu... Good luck!

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Belen - posted on 11/19/2015

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Your son will also sleep through the night if you use babies magic tea. My boy was also facing the same sleepless nights, now I am using this tea and he sleeps most of the night.

Merry - posted on 08/30/2010

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He just misses you at night, I bet he is a snuggly one too! That's how Eric is, I sometimes wish he would sleep all night but now as I'm pregnant I know it will be too soon he won't get my full attention so I'll snuggle at night as long as possible. (Eric is almost 1 1/2) try to enjoy the fact he misses you and just needs your presence through the night. It is a compliment that he wants you, most cultures don't expect a full nights sleep anyways :) :)

Stevee - posted on 08/30/2010

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Sally,you make a perfect comment.
I realize now how normal this little guy is.
I do spend tons of time with him during the day.
We pretty much do everything together.Heck even when I do dishes,i set him up in his highchair so he can watch me and we will "chat" too.

Rachel - posted on 08/29/2010

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I am going through the same thing right now. I only realized I had to work on him a few nights ago when he got me up so many times that i lost count. And he wasnt hungry or anything he just wanted cuddles. So my three year old son who shares a room is sleeping on the couch for a bit while I work with my younger boy on sleeping through the night. Some kids just need to be shown that it is quiet time, not day time and they need to put themselves to sleep. I have been working on my little one for just about a week and last night he only woke up once and slept until 630. HEAVEN! Honestly just let him cry for 5 or 10 mins, go in and lay him back down with his binkie, blanket or what not and say night. next time go in 10 to 15 mins and do the same. Stretch it out every time and he will eventually get tired. The first two nights are the hardest but then it gets easier. Just slowly back off the feedings and such and if you have to change naps during the day. I moved my little one from 3 to 2 naps a day. Stick to it and work with him and he will start sleeping. I will pray for yall.

Courtney - posted on 08/28/2010

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My girls (now ages almost 7 and almost 5) slept through the night early but my boys (almost 3 and almost 1) are the "problem children" in this area. My 3 year old didn't sleep through the night until just a few months ago and my 1 year old still doesn't sleep through the night. For me I think its because the girls were given formula and the boys were/are breastfed. Every baby is different. Don't compare them because they will never measure up to one another. A few questions though (and I'm sorry if they've been asked and answered, I did not read all 30+ replies): 1) Does he share a room? 2) What time does he go to bed at night and wake up in the morning? 3) Is he eating solid food (not baby food but real solid food like you make for dinner) 4) What do you give him in his bottle, milk, water, juice etc.? We try to make night time as un-exciting as possible for our kids when they get up. Water in the bottle (we're trying to wean of the breast right now) and no lights or tv. I also try to keep my son in his bed and just stand over the crib and give him his water, sometimes it works and sometimes not so much. If he sleeps in your room, move him if possible. If he's not eating table foods, try giving him some. They might fill him up more and he might sleep better. Google Baby led feeding there is a video that pops up from youtube. Or for more info email me here and ask, I'd be happy to give you more info. Good luck!

Tammy - posted on 08/27/2010

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Every child is different, my son didn't start sleeping through the night on a regular basis until he was over 4 years old, so thank you lucky stars he's only 10 months old...

Hariette - posted on 08/26/2010

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I have a son of 6 and one of two and I still get up everynight. Last night I got up like ten times and the previous night I easily got up like 20 times. I feel your pain, but I dont know what the solution will be. I am exhausted. Since I have taken the 2 year old off the bottle it started getting better but the last couple of nights we are back to square one..

Amy - posted on 08/26/2010

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My daughter is almost 19 months & has only slept through the night 3 times. And by "through the night" I mean asleep around 10pm & awake by 4 or 5am. It's exhausting! My son, who is 4, slept through the night at a very early age & I got spoiled! I'm hoping my daughter outgrows this sleepless phase soon! You are not alone! :)

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Like many have said here, all babies are different. My girls were all good sleepers and sleeping 12 hours by 3 -4 months. I also am a huge fan of BabyWise. Though there is one person here who has written a negative post on here regarding BabyWise, there are a few others on here who have had a positive experience. I do want to clarify one thing in that it is not a book that operates on strict guidelines. It simply encourages routine, especially at this young age, which is what every child craves and needs. If it doesn't work for you, that is fine. But if you are looking for something to help I suggest you give it a try. You might be surprised. I've recommended this book to many moms and they have always had positive results. You don't need to follow all the guidelines word for word, just the basic concepts. Good Luck! And remember, this too shall pass. :)

Carly - posted on 08/26/2010

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I have to say everychild is different completely!!!! but if you keep a routine make them take a nap for atleast 30 minutes or more somtime through out the day it helps them become more relaxed and i have the same night time routine with my daughter since day1!!!! at 7 everysingle night even if we are at a friends house i lather her with lotion and wash her hands and face if no bath that night, then put pjs on and read a book!!! She has slept through the night since 3 weeks....hiccups every once in awhile with travel but that i expected. If you keep a routine and letting them isnt horrible but dont them scream theri little faces off longer than 5-10 minutes...i hate hearing babies not being tended to when they might really need us! its ok to get up once just lay him back down pat his back tell him its ok to go to sleep...my daughter may not even go right to sleep when i lay her down i can hear her playing in there sometimes!

Jennifer - posted on 08/25/2010

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I have the same problem with my 2 year old son. My 6 year old was sleeping thru the night a 6 weeks old and I just assumed that my next child would do the same. I was so wrong. Since he has been born he has gotten up at least 2 to 3 times at night. I wish I could tell you that it will get better and they outgrow it but sometimes they do and sometmes they don't. I have asked his pediatrician about it and all she can tell me is that I probably have enabled his behavior somehow and now it is a habit that needs to be broken. Yeah right you try letting a child cry and cry before you go to them. Just can not do that because I have another child that needs his sleep because he is in school so I guess I will have to get up with him thru the night and hope that he outgrows it. I am sorry that this probably will not help you but that is my story.......

Yvette - posted on 08/25/2010

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my daughter just turned three, and up until very recently she was up and down all night long. i know this is gonna sound funny but, my daughter and her half sister have bunk beds, i switched it so that my youngest was on top, now she sleeps through the night. try a temp change....

Anna - posted on 08/25/2010

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I have been there and its so hard, my son did excatly the same, it must be something they go through because I could not find out why, we thought he was to hot then too cold, teething ! but just as quickly he routine was broken, he began sleeping through the night again, we just use to comfort him and I stop giving him milk as I thought he was waking for this.... It must be a boy thing !!! It will get better it do for us

Paola - posted on 08/24/2010

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Have you tried the cry it out method? It really works!! I finally got tired on month 11 of waking up at 1am or 2am to give my daughter a bottle....we let her cry it out for the the first night (she cried for 3 hours) and from the following night on she has slept the entire night. The bottle just works as a reward.

April - posted on 08/24/2010

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Okay so your not going to like the sound of this but my son is now 21 months old and just started sleeping thru the night when he was 20months!!!!!!! I was going crazy and didnt know what to do. He would scream for hours at night unless he would get a cup of milk. It was horrible because both my husband and I work! But one night he slept through without any change from our side and night after night he kept on sleeping. It took awhile but we made it thru.

Stevee - posted on 08/24/2010

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Wow,I guess he is more "normal" than I thought he was,lol! Thanks for all the suggestions ladies,it is so appreciated.I do put him down for naps/bedtime roughly the same time day to day,but he doesn't always sleep at every attempt.His meals are pretty good,he is eating 3 solid meals a day along with 2-3 bottles daily too.I will just keep plugging along,thanks again.

Bree - posted on 08/23/2010

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I know how you feel. I have 5 & 3 yr old sons plus the 10mth old son, he started to sleep straight through think about 3 nitghts in total then got really bad chest infections that just couldnt shake at star of cold weather lasted bout three mths. His all good now but has'nt gone back to sleeping through he is getting up two maybe three times a night. The other two boys were sleeping through at 3 & 4 mths I'm at a loss to top it off he shares the room with my oldest who is in prep this yr so keeps disturbing him, 3/4 of the time i take him into bed with us.

Stifler's - posted on 08/23/2010

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My kid went through a phase of sleeping through the night. Now he is back to waking up all through the night. It's so annoying. Could be teething.

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unfortunately there is nothing you can do! my son is 19months old and still doesnt sleep through the night! he wakes up between 2 and 6 times a night! he just might be a very active child that feels like he doesnt need much sleep! does he have naps during the day? if he does try cutting them down or maybe keeping him up a little later at night! they are the only things i can suggest becasue i still havent found my solution!!
god luck xxx

Renae - posted on 08/22/2010

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50% of babies still wake at least once during the night until they are over 12 months old. It sounds like you were very lucky with your daughter. I dont think you should do anything at all with your son. Sleep training is not appropriate for only waking once or twice when under 12 months (in my opinion). Usually, if they go back to sleep fairly easily and are sometimes still waking out of hunger, they generally sleep all night in their own time. If he is 3 years old and still getting up twice a night then it would be appropriate to do something about it.

Kristina - posted on 08/22/2010

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One thing that worked for me was putting cereal in my son's bottles before he went to bed. In an 8 oz bottle I would put about 4 scoops of rice or oatmeal cereal. I would use the scooper from his formula.

Sheelagh - posted on 08/22/2010

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1 - 2 times a night!.... oh what I would give for that! Not that it helps but my little man is also 10 months and wakes on average 4 - 6 times every night. Not once in his little life have we managed any more than 6 hours and they are VERY few and far between.... Tried many ideas but none really seem to have any impact. Resigned myself to the fact that he's just a restless sleeper. And like other posts say, we wake up too so it's unrealistic to expect them to not stir all night. It's the re-settling that's the problem. I remind myself that this time with them will be gone before I know it & I try to treasure the night-time snuggles. All bubs are different. They'll all sleep when they're able to. But sometimes it also helps to know that so many others are up all night too!!!!

Shannon - posted on 08/22/2010

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Oh dear, I can so relate to this. My three year old didn't sleep for more than 2 hours at a time until he reached 1. That was such a tough year. I swear I lost some valuable brain cells! He's still not the best sleeper but we manage. Message me if you need a shoulder. :)

Ashley - posted on 08/21/2010

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Some babies are good sleepers. Some babies aren't. My son is just now sleeping through the night at almost 4 years. And if we go on vacation or something that upsets our schedule we are back to being up at night for a few nights. I have a sister in law whose first was a great sleeper like your first and her second still doesn't sleep through the night at 2+ years. Many people suggest crying it out. It didn't work for us or my sister in law.
Some babies just need patience and love and understanding and will just sleep when they sleep. One thing I learned is that he does need to learn to fall asleep on his own, but he isn't going to do that if he is hysterical. So I did this "method" where I just sat by his bed, not touching or talking to him, but he knew I was there - letting him fall asleep - if he looked for me he could see me. Eventually I would sit farther and farther away. Now I can actually put him in bed and kiss him good night and leave and he stays in bed and falls asleep without crying (well, mostly, once in a while he comes out looking for us.)
A bedtime routine is very important for us too. The same thing every single night.

You might try the book "Sleepless in America" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. I got tons of great advice and ideas from that book!

Claire - posted on 08/21/2010

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my son will be 10months next weekend he sleeps through from 7:30pm and sleeps 12 hours or more .. how many meals/bottles does your son have?my son has 3 meals and 3 bottles a day. depending on what you do with him a number of things could help. such as change nappy the minute before he goes to bed or read to him when he goes to bed.. do you have a bedtime routine ? xx

Nicole - posted on 08/21/2010

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None of my 3 children slept through the night until they were almost 2 yrs. old. I think you were lucky with your first baby. Is he teething? Does he go right back? He may be just checking in. There are different developmental stages that babies go through and it can effect there sleep patterns. Hang in there it will get better.

Merry - posted on 08/21/2010

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yeah, eric has slept 5-6 hours since about 4 months but then got to 7 hours a night around 7 months and by 13 months is back to 5-6 hours lol darn molars are coming through and his sleep is affected. but now at 16 months he is getting back to around 7 hours some nights. but after a feed he will go back to sleep and get a total of around 10-12 hours so I know he is ok. but id love a longer stretch, but I have heard some bad thigns about babywise, and havent read it.
whatever keeps us sane and them growing right! enjoy your sleep, and I am sorry you didnt breastfeed, I knw it is a sensitive subject for those who are bottle feeding, I mean no judgement on you.
:)

Rachel - posted on 08/20/2010

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Unfortunately I did have to bottle feed (still a sore subject with me) she was sleep at that time 6-6.5 hours now she sleep 11-11.5 hours at night and is 3 months. My sisters babies were BF tho and they would do 5 hours at the young age and then gradually got to 12 hours a night.
Becoming Baby Wise is the book... it is geared to BF moms really.

Merry - posted on 08/20/2010

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Rachel, how long is 'through the night' to you?
at 3 weeks their stomach is the size of a small golf ball and breastmilk is digested in about 30 minutes so I can not see how this is healthy or safe, but if through the night is meaning like 6 hours and you formula feed I guess that makes sence as formula takes sooooo long for their tummys to digest it sits in their for so long as most of it isnt digestable.
But for breastfed, this is not healthy at all.
id love to hear what made her sleep that long so soon, because Ive never heard anything I would try because I am against ignoring crys but im open to new ideas.

Rachel - posted on 08/20/2010

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My baby girl has been sleeping thru the night since 3 weeks old. My sisters told me to read a certain baby book and follow there advice. It worked for all three of their kids all slept thru the night by 12 weeks. I dunno if the princples would help you know but it basically tells you to keep them awake during the day except for a naps (set up for there age/feeding schudule).



Hope it gets better for you soon.

Merry - posted on 08/20/2010

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Eric is up at least 1 time a night, usually 2 and he is 16 months.
I am not going to use crying with him so I understand he will enjoy my comfort during the night. I will have to ease out of it after the new baby is born but we havent conceived yet so Eric has a while yet to be waking up for me.
Many many many moms have told me that their toddlers are also up at least 1 time a night. and remember, many adults also wake up once during the night so we can not expect more from our babies then the average adult can handle.

Your son will be 16 years old before you know it and you may wish you hadnt made him grow up so fast, he is only this young once and we should cherish the night time cuddles, and try to accept it as a once in a liffetime chance to snuggle with these babies.
have a great night and hug him extra tight tonight:)

Kari - posted on 08/20/2010

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Well I'm sure this won't make you feel any better but kids are so different that he may just not sleep through the night until he's much older. My son slept through the night by four months but my daughter didn't sleep through nights consistently until she was almost two. Maybe that's why I love naps so much!!

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