13 month old refusing to feed himself...

Nadine - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my 13 month old son refuses to feed himself. I must feed him everything. He is great eater. he eats everything but when I try to get him to hold something bring it to his mouth he snatches his hand away. he does not put anything in his mouth himself. he also picks things up, but only hold them for a second and throughs it away. he also will not leave anything on his highchair. he throws everything off. If I put my hand on his highchair, he even pushes my hand away, if I put it on his high chair. . Has anyone faced this problem. I have tried everything. We even eat all meals together, so he can see us eating. help, I feel like he is going to be school age and still expecting me to feed him.

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Iliana - posted on 05/12/2010

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What's wrong with you feeding him? There is nothing wrong with that. Eventually, he will learn. Encourage him to try helping himself but you have to remember he is only 1 year old. It's a bit ridiculous to expect them to feed themselves. I find this whole movement where mother's expect their kids to feed themselves a bit frustrating. If the child wants to do it on their own great! If not, help them. If it means feeding him every meal then do it. The problem is it becomes inconvenient for us. I fed my son til he was in preschool. He also ate better when I did it. Plus, it gave us time to interact, chat, and spend time together. Once they are more independent you will miss that time you could have had. All kids are different. Don't measure him with some else's stick. Good luck.

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Myra - posted on 05/12/2010

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He sounds like a normal 13mo old to me. My 2yr old still has problems feeding herself certain things and I still help with those things. As to pushing or throwing things...that's a totally normal assertive demonstration of his independence. It will get worse before it gets better, but it will eventually get better.

Have you thought about giving some things like Puffs or crackers, or other things that he can first learn to feed as a snack? My daughter liked feeding herself Puffs first. Also, make sure everything is bite size, and colorful. With my oldest, color was the way to go. Carrots, broccoli, peas, squash, blueberries (cut in halves)...if it was colorful, it guaranteed a higher interest from her, and a better try from her to eat on her own.

Every child is different and does things in their own time. Be patient with him. He'll get it.

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dont let him see you leave the food there, and maybe try putting a plate on the floor, i know it doesnt sound like such a sanitary thing to do but you gotta do things unconventionally sometimes to get your kids to start doing something new. and then just leave it there with some of his toys around it, he's bound to want to explore what it is, and who knows might just pick it up and put it in his mouth behind your back.

Nadine - posted on 05/10/2010

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He eats everything. It's just that I have to feed him. I just tried to leave food on his table. He started crying wanting me to put it in his mouth. Anything on the tables winds up on the floor.

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Great idea Mia! If that doesn't work, just feed him, he'll come around! Mommy knows best, so you realy would know what aproach would be best for your son. Maybe he needs space to explore and eat the food on his own time, or maybe he just wants a little more hugs and attention from Mommy. You'd know best.

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maybe try leaving finger food, like a bit of cheese around the place where his toys are on plastic plates, or on coffee table or something and let him explore it in his own time during the day. i found this helped with getting my son to try some foods he wouldnt want to normally eat, like celery.

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