15 months and no sechedule?

Amber - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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is there any other moms who stay at home and didn't really have their child on a schedule? Im beginning to think i might have to put him on one but dont want it to be like by the minute but , something that is easier on hetting him to sleep and awake at a regular time! Any suggestions are great!



If there are any mom s who didnt have their child on a sechedule and how did u manage?

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For the first year I didn't bother with scheduling because they're schedules change every few months during their first year - I found they did anyway. After a year I got into a lose schedule but I've remained pretty flexible, ei: I don't rush to wake the kids up at 8:00 on the dot every morning. If they sleep in an hour I take that I sign and I sleep in as well, lol! I do have a daily routine where at such and such a time the kids have to clean up and then they eat, and then it's rest time and on and on. But I leave a lot of open time free do just do whatever. Go outside, play a game, do a craft, do some baking, or just have the kids play by themselves. For myself, personally, I think I'd be more stressed if I had my day planed to the minute then just a lose routine. But if you like being super organized and having everything planned out then start schedule!!!

Amy - posted on 01/26/2010

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I agree with Bethany! I have never had a schedule with my daughter, but we have a great routine and she is a much happier baby since we got into a nice routine!

Stefie - posted on 01/26/2010

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We had schedule issues because we moved twice in my DD first year of life! It was hard when she got off her schedule, more fits and slower learning.
This last move was the hardest because she was older. It took us a really long time to re-establish it. I had to first observe and notice when she usually woke up, ate, napped, ect. Then I made a schedule and stuck to it. We had tears several times a day for a few days, then life got a lot better. Now if she is ready for bed a few minuets early or if we are playing and I forget to check the time, she will come and tell me it is nap time or eating time. She has had no issues as long as we stick to her schedule. This can be really hard because life gets in the way and family often says, "Oh, who cares if she eats dinner at 7 instead of 6 and goes to bed at 9 not 7:30" then they see the fall out and quickly go with the plan.
Good luck
Remember, just stick to it for a few days and you will see the reward! Your LO should only need one nap at this point so it should be simple to figure out the schedule.

Ashley - posted on 01/26/2010

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I worked hard to put my twins on some type of sechedule.. It tolk about 2 months. I try to keep them up all day, when they do fall asleep, i wake them up in about 30 min. they go to bed at 7 or 8, and wake up at 4, give them a bottle and put them back to bed. and they wake up at 8 to eat breakfest, and stay up all day

Ashley - posted on 01/26/2010

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I worked hard to put my twins on some type of sechedule.. It tolk about 2 months. I try to keep them up all day, when they do fall asleep, i wake them up in about 30 min. they go to bed at 7 or 8, and wake up at 4, give them a bottle and put them back to bed. and they wake up at 8 to eat breakfest, and stay up all day

Michelle - posted on 01/26/2010

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I think I would go nuts with out my 2 on a schedule but that being said our schedule is very relaxed. The boys get up between 8 and 9 and have breakfast around 10:30 - 11:30 they go for a nap and when they get up usually around 1:30 2 they have lunch. After that we run errands or what ever the day holds and then dinner at about 6:30 then off to bed at 8:30. We brush teeth say prayers and read a story and the lights out before 9. Then the next day we start all over. Some days we stray from that but....that is pretty much how it goes for us. I do know if we stray for more then a day or two from routine then they start to make life harder. We don't schedule to the minute more like the hour. But find what ever works for you and your child and go with that. The only thing I would say to keep in mind is that you will need to establish some sort of routine when your child reaches school age and it might be easier for both of you to start that now. Hope this helps and good luck.

Lol - posted on 01/26/2010

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As Bethany said... you would already have a pretty loose type of routine anyway. There is no real need to be by-the-minute... esp when you are a SAHM. Yes it's good for them to have a routine, but they do also need to know about unexpected surprises. As long as you are comfortable with how your day goes... then no stress.

But I would suggest that you defintey have their feeding on a schedule... just so that there is no struggle or worry when it is time to send them off to school and there body is asking for food different fromt he school times.

Ashley - posted on 01/26/2010

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I worked hard to put my twins on some type of sechedule.. It tolk about 2 months. I try to keep them up all day, when they do fall asleep, i wake them up in about 30 min. they go to bed at 7 or 8, and wake up at 4, give them a bottle and put them back to bed. and they wake up at 8 to eat breakfest, and stay up all day

Bethany - posted on 01/26/2010

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I think you'll find you are already on a loose routine, if you note for a couple of days what order you do some things.

When you get up, you have breakfast, some time during the day he has a nap, before he goes to sleep at night you feed him and bathe him....

It's just a matter of watching him more carefully and helping him go to sleep the first time he shows tired signs, then feeding him when he wakes.

So when he starts touching his face and ears, getting a bit clumsy, a bit moody, take him to his quiet room, and close the curtains, speak quietly. As he calms down, do what you do to put him to sleep.

I never had a schedule, but I did have a routine. So the same things in the same order most days. Charlotte soon worked out her own timing, and I took notice, and acted on it. I went by Tracy Hogg's "Secrets of the Baby Whisperer". I highly recommend it.



She can go up to about 2 or 2 and a half hours after waking in the morning, then she needs a sleep. She sleeps for about an hour and a half then we have lunch. She'll go about 3 hours after lunch until she needs another sleep, usually about 45 min to 1 hour. Then we have afternoon tea, and a play then dinner, bath, quiet play or read, then off to bed about 5 hours after getting up from her nap. Then some nights she sleeps about 11 hrs, sometimes 6 then a feed then another 5 or 6.



I don't usually go out until after her morning sleep. She can have her afternoon sleep in the pram or car or where ever, but I do like her to get her good long sleep each day. If I have to go out in the morning and have to drive a fair way, I leave when she's due her sleep. If it's just running errands, it can wait until the afternoon.



Our life is very calm, and happy, and Charlotte knows what's coming next and feels safe. She sleeps well and eats well and is almost always smiling and cheerful (unless she's getting a tooth)

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