16 month old son screams every time I put him down to sleep, what do i do???

Shanaaz - posted on 06/21/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




My son has been a really good sleeper up until about a month ago. When putting him down he would just turn over onto his tummy and just go off to sleep. Now, whenever I put him down he screams when I leave the room. He wakes up more often during nap times and screams which he never did before. I tried going in calming him down, not taking him out of the crib and not staying too long in the room. But he wants me to stay there and pat him to sleep. I'm really don't want to do this as I don't want him to get use me doing it and then that's the only way to get him back to sleep. I'm so emotionally drained and frustrated as he never did this before and his 16 month old twin sister just goes down no problem but he keeps doing this, what should I do. Please respond as I'm at my wits end. Thanks


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Krystal - posted on 06/21/2010




I don't think the cry it out method is the best thing. Since the day my son was born I have just been going with the flow of him and it works. He eats when he wants to eat, he sleeps when he wants to sleep and when night time comes... he takes a bath, he eats his bedtime bottle and then I rock him to sleep. He doesn't have a set bedtime but once he's asleep for the night he will sleep anywhere from 8-10 hours straight and then take naps through out the day. So I say Rock On Ladies! Every child is different and going by the book is not always the best thing.

Soleil - posted on 06/21/2010




let him cry it out, eventually he will tire. Seriously, I did it with my sons, and they both sleep through the night no problem, and they know I'm not going to respond to any night time nonsense. Sleep is a learned behavior, so if he learned to go to sleep in your arms, the longer you wait, the harder it will be to get him out of it. Sometimes it seems harsh, but trust me it is so worth it in the long run. The process is called Ferberizing, so you can always look up other tips, but really, put him down after a set routine, like bath, book and song, and then put him in his crib, and walk out. He will scream, he will cry, but do not go back in the room. It can take over an hour for them to cry it out, so be strong, it's for everyone's own good!

Kelina - posted on 06/21/2010




I know it's nerve wracking but let him cry it out. You said you go in and he wants you to pat him to sleep. he's realized that when he cries you will go in and pay attention to him, so don't give him that attention. It will take time and many tears but he'll learn. Maybe try when you go to put him down to sleep, give him 2-5 mintues where you'll sit there and pat his back and then get up and leave. That's not too much time and then he's drowsy and might cry less.

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I agree with Kencheska. Try the cry-it-out method because at this age they are starting to learn how to push your buttons. Hope he settles soon!

Kencheska - posted on 06/21/2010




Well...I would let him cry it out. He cries because he knows that you will come. I had the hardest issue with this. When I first started letting him cry himself to sleep he would cry for over 45 minutes! My son is 15 months and he still cries a bit when we put him down for naps but he falls asleep...on his own.As long as your child is not physically making himself sick he will be fine with a long cry. Sorry about your nerves!

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