2 Kids Under 2... Is it hard?

Micahkilgore - posted on 09/30/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My name is Micah and I am a stay at home mom with a 13 month old daughter who is sweet, funny and without question the happiest baby that I or any of my friends or family have ever seen. She is very easy to take care of and every day with her is a joy.

That being said, my husband and I just found out that we are pregnant with baby # 2. It was a planned pregnancy, although it happened much quicker than we expected. If my calculations are correct we got it on the first try. :-)

We have always planned on having two children, and we always wanted to have them close together so that they would grow up together. I'm very excited to be having another baby, but now I find myself feeling some fear and anxiety as well. I have heard that having 2 kids under two can be very rough, and I tell myself that I am ready for that, but I wonder if I really am. My daughter is very, VERY easy to take care of. She eats well, sleeps through the night and is happy to play by herself for quite a while. When she wakes in the morning she doesn't scream or cry - she just plays in her crib and will wait patiently for me to get her up. Sometimes for an hour or more! I worry now that, because my daughter is so easy to take care of, I'm not going to be prepared for just how difficult it will be to add in a new baby. So I'm wondering if any moms out there who have/had 2 kids under two can give me advice and/or reassurances. I've never been one to shirk from a new challenge, but I'm still feeling a little nervous about this one...




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Christine - posted on 10/01/2009




I had the same anxieties as you. My son was 4months when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. They are two weeks over 12 months apart. I was lucky as well that they both slept well and ate well and were fairly easy babies but there were still some hard days. I guess my only advice is to not forget to take time for yourself. I found it was easy to at times. And when family or friends offer to help, let them. I didn't do enough of that at first because I didn't want to put them out any. All in all it was deffinately worth it and I love the relationship they have with eachother now.

Hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and it takes a good mom to worry about those things. Sounds like you'll do just fine. You're probably more prepared than you think.

Nadine - posted on 10/01/2009




My boys are 13 months apart, my eldest is 21 months and my baby is 7 months old. The first two or three months are hard, but that's only until you get your routine established. My youngest was a very difficult baby and he still is quite demanding but you just need to stay calm. I actually find it easier looking after two babies than when there was just one. They already love each other to bits. Something that might make things easier for your daughter is when the new baby is born and you take her to meet her new sibling let her give the baby a toy and also let the baby give her something. Also what I found was my eldest was very inquitive and tried to play with his brother from the start, it's important not to shout when she gets a bit rough with the baby. Explain gently that it's still "a baby baby" that's the phrase I use with my son. While I was pregnant I use to tell my eldest that he is getting a baby brother and I use to tell him about all the fun they will have together. Having two babies under 2 really isn't all the hard, it depends on your attitude and just take everything as it comes. Congratulations on the new baby!! :-)

Elise - posted on 10/01/2009




I have three kids 4 and under, my youngest two are 20 months apart. It is hard work, but its worth it! I found my third (also planned, but earlier than expected!) has fit in really well, mainly because she has to! You may find that looking after yourself and having time out takes a higher priority, ensure your routine is organised so that can happen regularly. You'll be fine! Good luck, take it in your stride, one day at a time! :)

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