2 year olds fighting

Naomi - posted on 10/30/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Ok to make a little money I have started watching a 2 year old girl. I have a 2 year old boy and a 9 month old girl. This girl has no rules at home and older siblings; so to protect herself she is used to hitting, bitting, pushing, and screaming at the kids. It has been drilled into my sons head what is nice and what is naughty but after just 2 days of watching this girl my son is a terror! He is yelling and talking back to me, screams NO (thats the most untollerated thing in our house) to me and refuses to listen. He now doesn't listen to anything I say and doesn't share or treat other kids with respect. Please how do I fix this he is the most stubborn child and once he starts a habbit it doesn't break easy!


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Sarah - posted on 10/30/2009




I would say lots of time outs. If you can get mom on board that will help and make the process much easier. But if not she will learn what is acceptable at your house and what is not. Also teach her how to respond. Sometimes kids hit, bit, push, etc. because they don't know how to respond. I will always say we need to use our words and then give them what to say....instead of "give me that" say "can I please play with that" and then teach them to listen and if the other child says "no" than you need to find a different toy for awhile. Bitting and hitting gets no warnings it is an automatic time-out with explaining what they should have done instead.

Brooke - posted on 10/30/2009




Kids are pretty smart- if they know that you'll allow something (even if you don't like it), they'll keep doing it. Just be as consistent as possible with your rules. Even if that little girl acts one way at home, she'll learn that your house has different rules. If you can get her mom on board, great. If not, just do your best. Good luck!

Caryn - posted on 10/30/2009




Part of that is normal 2-yr old behavior. They are still into the "monkey-see-monkey-do" and will almost always act on it.

I think you should talk to the childs mother. Explain to her what your house rules are and that you will enforce them with ehr daughter when shes over. Stick to it with both of them always, they will catch on quickly that its not appropriate behavior.

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