3 kids under 3, all born different years! I feel more stressed than ever!

Shanelle - posted on 12/14/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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is anyone in the same boat and feeling like they hate there job? I love my girls but lately i am so tired that i wish I could escape. my youngest is 3 months and oldest just turned 3!

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CANDICE - posted on 01/08/2010

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i have three babies under two and most days i cant wait till the day is over. its so kaotic in my house. i love my babies so much so i pray and ask GOD for the wisdom and knowlege to deal. one thing my mom always says is that they wont be babies for ever.

Michelle - posted on 12/30/2009

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I hear you. I had at one time 4 under four. Make sure you take time for yourself. Either with your husband watching, or maybe a friend, family member, or a babysitter. When I started doing that I felt so much better. Sometimes I would say to my kids "Mommy needs a time out" and I would go shut a door and lock (yes, my kids were all o'kay) for like a minute when it got overwhelming. Sometimes when I had time to myself I would go park in a parking lot just to enjoy the silence. Just find some time for yourself. You need it and deserve it. I also met other moms thru other groups and some of us clicked so we try once a month to go out together without the children. Sometimes we just go for walk.

Suzie - posted on 12/27/2009

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Caring for babies is hard work and is very stressful, especially 3. My 3 kids are 2 years apart and am stressed ALOT. My middle child is the one that tests me and from what I've heard, that's common with middle children. Google birthing order and it'll explain why. Getting an hour of quiet alone time from time to time helps me to keep sane these days and walking on the treadmill for just 10 minutes helps alot. Once they are all potty trained, it will get better. Just think, when they are all older....they will be best of friends because they are so close in age.



To answer your question, there are many times when I hate my SAHM job. I leave for a few minutes to cry and collect my thoughts and come back. But I must say, this has been my most favorite job yet.



I agree with the previous post. It does take a village to raise a child. I couldn't do it without the help of my mom a few days out of the month....especially when I'm feeling run down and sick. Take a break for a few minutes daily when help is around...you deserve it.

Katharine - posted on 12/27/2009

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Call in reinforcements!!! Grandma's and Grandpa's, Brothers and Sisters, Friends....If they are trustworthy..use them. If you can get some help anywhere...take it. I know it's hard to ask. You feel like you might be putting people out, but chances are, those people would love to spend time with your kids and love to help you. Even if you have to split them up between people, or only one goes, it will take some of the stress off of you. I had 2 in 2yrs, and I have even recently broken down into tears, sobbing "I can't do it all by myself." I forget there are people in my family that would love to spend time with the little ones. Just remember...It takes a village!

Sarah - posted on 12/27/2009

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bless your mommy heart! I have three also. 10-8-2005. 5-24-2007 &10-4-2008. I pushed out my youngest and went home to make a cake for the oldest. so I get it. you are at a very trying time trying to get a baby going and having toddlers too. so you have a safe place to be outside where you can hold the baby and the girls can play? we are outside often, the kids play and the sunshine makes me feel better. hang in there. your husband loves you, your babies love you, and before you know it this will all have passed.

Cassandra - posted on 12/27/2009

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I totally understand and thought I was the only one. I have a 3 year old and an 17 month old, I can only imagine what it is like to have 3 at once. Whereabouts do you live? Maybe we could do playdates.

Shanelle - posted on 12/15/2009

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I love my kids and I do find the positives cause I always feel like one good thing out weighs ten bad things. Just having a bad week I think and need to get it off my chest. My husband is wonderful and he helps out alot more than I can say for most of my freinds husbands. so I count myself lucky.
my middle child Ella is the one that tests me everyday. But I wouldnt have her any other way. I just hoped I wasnt the only one that gets down like this like I am right now. Ill probably snap out of it soon when things get easier. bring on the light at the end of the tunnel. :-)

Kathleen - posted on 12/14/2009

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God bless you! I thought I had it hard with 3 who are 5 and under but about two years apart. It does get better! You just have to get past all the diapers. (I also have a two who are 20 years and 16 years so I have seen the light at the end of the tunnel. It is not a train coming back at you.)

I am lucky. I have great support from a Mom and Mom-in-law who are always ready to ride shotgun and sit in the car so I can run errands...taking them all in and out of car seats at every stop is a nightmare.....

Be sure to talk to your partner about your stress...He may be willing to help. You just have to ask. I had to learn this as well. I know he does not always do it your way but they are his children too so he can help..There is nothing he can do that you can't undo at some point.....LOL

It is OK to hate your job...just remember that you still have to do it so you might as well look for and focus on the bright spots...like:

her smile when she dumps her cereal all over the table....

her laugh when her diaper (heavy with wetness) falls off and she is FREE and naked

her joy at seeing you in the morning when she wakes up to a new day

her wonder at discovering that she is the girl in the mirror

her love for you even when you feel you have been the mom from hell

Remember that you created them out of love....Only good can come from love....

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