5yr old son is having problems with neg. attention seeking behavior. how can i stop it?


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Mandy - posted on 10/08/2009




I have a 5yo who is strong willed. What has helped us recently is keeping track of certain behaviors that we are working on being respectful, being honest, and being obedient. We give him check marks throughout the day regarding his behavior. If he gets 0 check marks, he gets to stay up later. If he gets 3 check marks, he goes to bed 15 minutes early and 4 or more check marks is 30 minutes earlier. If he only gets 1 or 2 check marks, he goes to bed at the usual time. This seems to help him and the bedtime is a sure motivation. He also gets additional chores as consequences for each behavior. Just find your child's motivation, maybe its removing privileges.

Julie - posted on 10/07/2009




I'm having the exact same problem. All I can figure is that we have to give them some positive attention to combat it and stay strong with the fact that bad behavior is bad behavior. My son has a hard time when priviledges get taken away - like staying at a friends house - so I use that to encourage good behavior too. Good luck! We both need it!

Brandy - posted on 10/07/2009




Time outs? Also, make sure that you are giving him tons of credit for the good things he does so he sees that he can get attention that way and it's positive attention. Make sure he doesn't think that misbehaving is the easiest way to attention. During the time-outs I would make sure to try to give him minimal attention so he understands that he is just going to be left by himself to sit on his own for 5 minutes every time he is bad.

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