8 month old not holding bottle by himself. And What about the melt away snacks?

Cindy - posted on 03/20/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My son is 8 months old and I've tried to get him to hold the bottle and he just doesn't seem to want to do it. Yes I've used the sippy cup bottles with the handles but he just doesnt get it! My sister-inlaw keeps saying he should be holding the bottle all by himself by 6 or 7 months, she even wants to give me the old sippy cups her kids used when they were babies, and they are now 3 and 5 years old (ewww old chewed up sippy cups) I mean of course I appreciate the help LOL. But what I figure is that every baby starts different things at different times, not all babies are the exact same.

I mean, he will eventually do it right? So am I worrying too much?
What about those melt away snacks for babies 6 months and older, when did u start giving your baby those melt away snacks, and do you think they would be a choking hazard for an 8 month old?

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Cheerios are the best snacks! Those melt-a-way things just seem to processed to me. Just feed them what you eat (in reason) and let them try things. Avacado was a favorite of my kids too (weird I know). Don't worry about the bottle thing, he'll get it one day.

Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2010

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babies aren't supposed to hold their own bottles. sippys yeah, but bottles no. i forget why....
the melting snacks are awesome just make sure they don't have any wheat flour in them until 12 mos. because of the allergy issue. oat flour, rice flour, sweet potato flour, arrowroot flour are all fine.

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The bottle problem I agree with Sara but I would much rather feed my child the melting snacks then raisens or bread. Both of those can be choking hazzards and block airways making it hard to get a tube down if it can't be removed. There are alot of natural products out there that don't have additives.

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melting snacks are AWESOME! After the first couple of times my daughters really liked them. Anything that melts is great!
As far as holding the bottle...do you always hold him when he drinks? If so try laying him down and work for it. I know it sounds mean and it tears you apart to hear him cry, but he has to learn to do it for himself. After a couple of times of being laid like on the floor or in his crib (with you near by) he will get the idea and do it for himself!

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You are right that babies to things on their own time. But maybe he just enjoys being held and having the bottle held for him. Does he hold other objects? If not I would be worried. If he does hold other objects and can make them do what he wants, then try what I did. I put my baby on her back at a slight incline (like in a bouncy chair or baby carseat) and put the bottle on her belly. She learned to hold it herself because she wanted it and it was there! It's not the same as propping a bottle because she had the ability to move the bottle.



As for those melt away snacks, I wouldn't worry with those either. Way too much sugar and additives. It wouldn't be a choking hazzard if you watch him. But I would suggest whole wheat bread, raisins or bits of fresh fruit instead.



It's so easy to worry, but we have to remember that kids all develop at their own pace and are a lot more resilient than we sometimes realize!

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User - posted on 03/26/2010

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my little girl is 8 months old nearly nine months and she to refuses to hold her bottle but i rekon its normal my first born was 6 months old when she did it but she is a more independant than her sister in a lot of ways each to there own i say it will happen when they are ready and those snacks i think are silly for a baby who is only just learning about textured food

PAULA - posted on 03/24/2010

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I don't think you should worry about it especially if he is holding other objects. If he is not holding onto anything then you can be a little concern. My 8 month old son is not holding his. He can hold it but I don't leave him to because he shakes it up n turn the bottle over his head and the formula runs out. He prefers playing with it than feeding himself so I hold it for him. As a matter of fact he doesnt even used bottle anymore. I gave him the cup with the spout and holds it for him. I am never worried about it because he is doing everything else. He eats breakfast, lunch and dinner with me and the breast in between and he is developing very quickly.

Nadine - posted on 03/24/2010

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my son is a year old and refuses to hold his bottle. I got him to hold it twice and me utting his hands on it. after then now he clenches his hands if i try it. He can but just doesnt want to. he also refuses to feed himself. I guess eventually he will do it.

Sarah - posted on 03/23/2010

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I did let my kids hold there own bottles. It was always a special time between the two of us. I used bottles until they were 1 year old (not letting them hold it haha) and then switched to a sippy cup after 1 year and they got to experience drinking on there own then. As for the melt away snacks 8 monthsis way old enough ;-)

Madeleine - posted on 03/23/2010

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i breastfed my son, so the bottle wasn't an issue. but, he wouldn't hold his own sippy cup until around his first birthday. every one is different. i wouldn't sweat it.

we did saltines and gerber puffs at about 6-7 months. then when he seemed to be doing fine with those moved on to other snacks like cheerios and small pieces of banana.

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dont worry folks told me the same thing...my son held his at five months but my daughter point blank didnt want to. I just enjoyed the time I had and a baby has to be a baby. Too many other moms put pressure on us...but only you know your baby! You do what is right for you and yes eventually it will happen. believe me this is the least of your worries cuz it gets more challenging. I say dont worry you do what is right for you and try not to stress too much. your baby will develop all sorts of things in its own timing....and really babies cant be compared to one another for their on individuality. as far as the melt away snacks i never had any trouble buy my lil one was 8 months when she had them and did ok...just monitor and see how your baby does and if its too scary just let it be.

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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Oh, and choking hazards are like raw, hard veggies, whole grapes or hot dogs, things like that.

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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I don't think that they really need to hold their own bottle -- they won't be using them after one year anyway. I have heard it can be a choking hazard anyway. Not sure about that though. But after all, you wouldn't want him to be walking around holding it because that would be hazardous. You could see if he would prefer an open cup, he might like that (start with water though to keep it less messy).

Claire - posted on 03/23/2010

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our youngest is 4 years old and wont even contemplate using a sippy cup he prefers the bottles with the handles i have tried him with the trainer teats that are soft but he just throws them on the floor so i have to change it to bottle teat. He started off on the avent bottles when he was born and then changed to a bottle with a handle and took to it straight away so i wouldn't worry too much. going back to the melt away snacks he will do it when he is ready joe still eats jarred pureed food and wont even eat lumpy food or homemade food ( he has slight developmental delay) like you say every child is different and he will move to a sippy cup when he is ready hope this helps

Stephanie - posted on 03/23/2010

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Sara, yeah, I breastfeed only too. so bottle info escapes me at times. :)

Susan - posted on 03/23/2010

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Meltaway snacks are great, no choking hazard...they really do melt when you put them in your mouth - my hubby tried them out first :) Cheerios are good at that age too and those Gerber cereal puffs, they get really soft. My daughter has always called them "yummys" So I don't remember the exact brand name. As for the bottle thing I don't know, Lily always helped me hold the bottle when I fed her so around 5-6 months she started taking control and pushing my hands away (she's an independent little thing). I always held her when I fed her her bottle until she started squirming away and going off on her own around 12 months. He'll hold the bottle when he's ready, as long as he can grasp other objects, don't worry about it but if you are please seek advice from your doc. Good luck!!

Cindy - posted on 03/23/2010

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Well No i don't hold him while feeding him, haven't done that since he was like 4 months old. I feed him in a high chair, he sits up straight. And then the bottles I figured he would have a harder time holding that which is why I said I tried to have him practice with the sippy cups with the handles on the sides.

And thank you for all of the helpful advice about the snacks! i'm only a little nervous about snacks because of the whole choking risk thing. Thank you everyone!!! :)

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Stephanie, I think babies aren't supposed to hold their bottles because of ear infections. But I think it's only if they are laying flat. Not totally sure. I didn't worry about it because my daughter was breastfed and only got bottles rarely, but it seems like that is what a bottle feeding friend told me.

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