9 month old REFUSES to sleep in his crib.

Michelle - posted on 03/16/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My friend's 9 month old REFUSES to sleep in his crib. She puts him down and he sits up right away. Then drifts in and out of sleep (eventually, after MUCH crying), while sitting up. At daycare he can't be in a swing or any kind of seat, (which he has no problems sleeping in), it has to be in a pack and play or crib. What should she do?


Tabitha - posted on 03/17/2012




Put him to bed and sit on the floor by his bed til he falls asleep. She needs to be facing away from him and not engage with him. He just needs to know that she's there. She'll have to do this for a few nights for it to work. And it's hard on a Mama because she has to sit and listen to her child cry. Each night, move closer to the door. Eventually, he'll learn that he can sleep on his own and the crying time will get less and less until it pretty much stops. Also, make sure there's not any distractions. He doesn't need music, tv or night lights. Bed time is for sleeping not entertainment. It also helps if there's quiet time and a routine leading up to bed time. This method actually has a name but I don't remember what it is, I did it when my babies were little on the suggestion of a more seasoned mother. I have since seen "Nanny Jo" use it on SuperNanny! Again, it won't be easy. No one wants to sit and listen to their baby cry. But it's worth it in the end when everyone wakes up rested instead of crabby! She might want to avoid letting him take naps in the swing or baby seats, he'll get a better nap if it's on a schedule and he's in his bed.


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Stifler's - posted on 03/18/2012




Is he cold maybe the crib is colder than the bassinet or swing and he doesn't feel secure? A cuddly is maybe a good idea for security or warmer clothes.

Katherine - posted on 03/17/2012




I just read this INSANE post that if you turn the crib to face your baby north they will sleep. Does it work? I don't know.....but it's worth a try. I can't remember the reason she gave either.

Otherwise try the Baby Whisperer by Tami Hoge, or the library to get some sleep books.

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