9 month old still isn't sitting up.

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Greetings.

My 9 month old daughter, nicknamed Miami (think 2 Fast 2 Furious when Tyrese says "doin it real Miami" that's the reason behind the nickname) isn't sitting up on her own. She can do a baby push up and also does what appears to be a baby version of planking. She also rocks back and forth on her hands and knees. She's speaking single words, eating baby food, and altogether thriving like a 9 month old should.

But she doesn't seem able to sit up on her own.

However, she does this thing that's got me confused.

When she's sitting in her car seat on the floor without the straps (she likes to sleep this way) she'll grab the sides and pull herself forward to try and grab the center piece. Is this a way of her strengthening her back muscles? My son never did this. He sat up at 7 months, crawled at 10 months, stood at 11 months, and walked at 13 months.

I'm kind of worried at this point. Like I said, she is accelerating at everything else, but sitting up just doesn't seem to be her thing. And it's not for lack of trying. Can I get some help with this? Do some babies just take longer than others?

Thanks.

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Jodi - posted on 05/13/2015

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If you can't afford to provide for your baby appropriately, then you need to stop having children for now - some of these are really important for their development. Not being able to provide your baby's basic needs (which includes somewhere appropriate to sleep) may actually be harming them in the long term. By only having her to sleep in her carseat, you are putting her at risk of a number of things. It MAY now be a physical problem for her now, as her muscles needed to reach developmental milestones may be quite delayed.

Try contacting local charities or churches and explain the situation and see if they can assist with some of the basic necessities.

With regard to one of you having a criminal history, I'm assuming the other doesn't and is able to get a job and apply for an apartment in their name in order to support the children?

Amanda - posted on 05/13/2015

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Yes, I do know this, but here's the problem.

We, as a family, are broke and never had a crib or any baby things necessary for her or my son when he was that age. We're in the process of moving to Georgia where my husband has gotten two jobs. I do feel bad that, as babies, my kids never had actual baby things besides toys and blankets and bottles. It's hard to live when one of us has a criminal history and, because of this, have gotten refused great jobs and great apartments.

But now, hopefully, we'll have money on hand. It's good to know that there isn't a physical problem with her and I am putting her on the floor on her blanket more often now. Thank you for the response. I have a lot of stress right now and that helps to take a little of it off.

Thanks!

Jodi - posted on 05/13/2015

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She shouldn't be spending so much time in her car seat, and definitely shouldn't be sleeping in it as a regular option. She needs to be on her own without the support more often to develop the motor skills needed to sit up.

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