a little vent

Tracey - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

130

13

16

i am so tired. i am pregnant with my second child and have a 5 yr old little girl. i am trying to get her prepared for kindergarten in august. i also live with my in-laws. i have to keep up with the schedule of chores that my neat and tidy mother-in-law has set for me. plus all breakfast and lunch dishes need to be cleaned up before she comes home from work. which means i clean up everyone's dishes even though its been stated that everyone cleans there own lunch or breakfast dishes. not i am being force to work at the church 2 days a week for a couple of hours. wednesday evening and sunday morning. i have the experience to work in there nursery, but i hated working at the military day care when i did work there. i am trying to help get my husband prepared for going back to school. the University of Phoenix. i have my doctors appointment to go to have to take my daughter to hers. make sure my husband gets the benifits that he deserves for him being a military veteran. and i still do work for his business, a ton of research that i do not really get paid for. oh and lets not forget the little work my mother-in-law gives me for my father-in-laws business that i really have and should not have anything to do with because that business will not pay me. i go to take a nap and get yelled at because i have not finished the big list of research t hat i have to finish for my husbands business, its so tiering and i am on the phone or running around all day and i get tired really fast. and the research i did to get my husband into school he is giving the same info to his mother who dropped out of the last school she went to and has stated that she was tired of working in the medical field and now wants to go back which means more work add to my list cuz she will be to tired to do anything.

i am constantly making a decent breakfast or lunch. which means i have a ton of dishes to wash. but if i don't make something decent your eating the same old junk day in and day out and it gets boring. i have to come up with nice dinners cuz my husband hates a quick meal. and all and all i get looked at like i am lazy, as if i do nothing and when i mention all that i do. no one cares. i have to keep up with my husbands pants because he does not have many and always, always forgets to tell me that he is going to need clean pants. i mean i honestly have a right to be tired and to think in a few months i am going to have more on my plate with an infant to care for while everyone is out of the house. well actually i expect to be caring a lot for him because of course its always the mothers job. i think i have the right to be tired.

thanks for listening

8 Comments

View replies by

Niamh - posted on 04/08/2010

7

21

0

you need to sit them all down and tell them all how u feel!! and your hubby should be supportive and support you when you ask and tell everybody you need more help around the house, its unblievable they expect you to do all of that!! but as they sayin goes, give them an inch and they'll take a mile! hope everyting improves for you :)

niamh

Taralee - posted on 04/07/2010

190

27

27

Me again, Tracey is there someone else you can move in with for the time being....I hate to say this but even if you and your child go and leave hubbie to live with his parents. I am a little worried, as I am sure many of the women reading this post are, about the health and stress level of you and the baby you are carrying.

Janina - posted on 04/07/2010

116

21

9

oh dear...!! i definitely think, seeing as you cant afford to move out atm, you need to sit them down and explain how youre feeling and maybe try get your partner to understand first, so that he is on par with you and can back you up to the inlaws!! you need to take it easy! youre pregnant for crying out loud! i cant believe theyre treating you like this... a big hug from me, and i really do hope you get the rest and respect that you deserve. x

Chantal - posted on 04/07/2010

24

28

2

They're treating you like a slave! You need to sit your hubby down & have a serious chat. Things are not going to get any easier when bub arrives. You are going to need to rest during the day after night feeding. Please sort it out now. And try to get your own place as soon as possible!!

Nadine - posted on 04/07/2010

65

2

4

You need to let your husband know that right now your pregnant and need to relax. Stress is not good for the baby. If your husband is not supportive maybe you need to rethink your relationship.



Taralee, I hear that no house is big enough for 2 women.

Tracey - posted on 04/06/2010

130

13

16

i wish i could move out. with the way the weather was this winter business kinda stopped. plus we really have no money to afford a place of our own. i really wish we could. i mean i guess i can't complain too much because we do not pay rent or any utilities, except for the little upgrades we did to the cable. i mean i spoke to my husband and he really believe i do not do a lot of work. like i sit on my butt all day and watch t.v. and eat. i just don't know what to do anymore.

Taralee - posted on 04/06/2010

190

27

27

Oh Tracey darling....as my Nana used to say...."there is no house big enough for two women!"....your little family need your own small apartment. What you are putting up with is ridiculous.....you need to be taking care of you too. Good luck!!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms