Add/adhd

April - posted on 01/30/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I would like to know how you mommas feel about add/ADHD? My son who is 8 seems to have a very high tendency of having it. He's not doing bad in school and has passed kindergarten to third grade so it's not effecting his grades but what I see at home is him struggling when we set down to do his home work he seems to have an attention span of thirty seconds and no more and is distracted over the slightest of everything. Mind you I make sure no TV is on or anything like that to make his focus hard on homework it's just me and him in a quite room..... How soon is to soon to evaluate I don't want to do meds really but am sorta in the air about it

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Jodi - posted on 01/31/2015

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I am a teacher in high school and there are STILL some boys (generally it is boys) I have to continually ask to go back to their seat simply because they can't stay still. They fidget, they swing in their chairs, they niggle at others. But they aren't ADD or ADHD. Yes, as a teacher, it does get annoying at times, but I certainly wouldn't be asking the parents to have them assessed, because these particular boys are very active boys, and it is incredibly normal. Often it is diet that I believe affects them - I see the crap they eat or drink in the classroom. Maybe just make sure you are watching what your son eats. Eliminate the sugar and articifial colours, etc if you can and see if that makes a difference. But there will always be kids that are a little hyperactive, but hyperactivity does not necessarily equal ADD or ADHD.

If this is the only area of your concern, then no, I wouldn't medicate either. Even if it is ADHD, I've known plenty of unmedicated ADHD students who have been perfectly fine without medication, we just use strategies to help them. Others, however, they need it or not only do they not stay in their seats for long, they bounce off the ceilings and walls all day.

Jodi - posted on 01/30/2015

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By all means, have him assessed if you want and if you think it would help. But he is an 8 year old boy. He needs to be active. Trying to force an 8 year old boy to sit all day and remained focused and then sit down in the afternoon and remain focused at home is unnatural. How long are you trying to get him to remain focused for? Children will often only remain focused on a single task for about 20 minutes, and then you start to lose them. That's just the way it is.

Jodi - posted on 01/30/2015

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If the behaviour is not a problem at school, it is NOT ADD or ADHD. You are seriously contemplating medication when it isn't a problem at school, only at home with homework?

You are probably seeing him struggling to focus at home because he has spent all day in school and is about done with it. Do you allow him some free time or play time when he gets home from school before he is required to do his homework?

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April - posted on 01/31/2015

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Jodi thank you so so very much..I will definitely change his diet around a little bit and see what we get :) Yes it can get frustrating repeating myself about sitting down by like I told my husband that's our son I wouldn't want him any other way and definitely not a zombie on medicine it would not be him if that was the case. He is a great kid and to me kids all kids are going to be hyper at some point and have trouble fidgeting with things etc but don't mean they need medicine that's crazy to me lol.. So I'm going to stay with the diet and stay with that thank you again dear

April - posted on 01/31/2015

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Kids getting and being side tract while playing over other things I thought was normal while playing I guess I always seen failing grades dreaming another world bouncing off walls and just not being able to stay focused was add/ADHD that type of thing so looking into symptoms I'm blown away by some because to me that's what kids do.. As I said and as your stated its not effecting him at school and when I asked if he has trouble listening or staying focused and school he always says no

April - posted on 01/31/2015

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@jodi you couldn't have said it better that's why I haven't had him assessed yet I believe children need to be active and there going to be hyper..... I DO NOT want my kids to be zombies and into this year I've never looked much into add/adhd until they asked me to have him checked... To be honest since he's doing so good in school if I can figure out a way to help him when were doing home work at home than he don't need checked. It's not affecting his grades and holding him back so why put him on medicine???? That's what I ask the principle and was told well his teacher has to tell him to sit down all the time I said really?? So he needs medicine because she has to tell him to set down? Yes you're son is full of energy.. Well that's a good thing yes to much energy can be bad but if that's all it is your crazy for thinking he needs medicine for just that... Eating dinner at home he wants to stand up and eat cause he gets antsy wanting to go play my solution to that is simple saying Caleb honey set down and eat.. Problem solved lol....... So I just wanted some oppinions thank you Jodi

April - posted on 01/30/2015

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@jodi yes I do. That's why I question it aside from the fact of his hyperness and if he goes to do something he gets side tract over everything.... The smallest thing can side tract him. The school mentioned his hyper activity and me getting him checked out he gets amazing grades tho just really directed and hyper

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