Advice for an exhausted and emotional mom???

Chantell - posted on 11/05/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am in need of some serious help!! I am a new mom of a 9 month old baby! She was sleeping great waking up a little early, but her father and I have recently split and we are now living with my mother, my daughter has started waking up earlier and earlier and now she's awake by 4am for the day!!!! On top of that she is up every hour or 2!! I feel so exhausted as I have work 4 days a week and NO help from her father!! I want to ask my mom but she is already helping us out so much... I can't hold back my anger I just cry and yell sometimes!! I feel like I shouldn't be a mom, I just feel so disconnected and I am often overwhelmed... I was diagnosed with PPD but her father told me I had to stop my medications because he didn't approve of anything altering my mood and said I was bitchy towards him... At this point I am losing my mind as my daughter constantly crawls after me, pulls on my legs as I walk, bangs on the bathroom door while I'm using the restroom always screaming and crying!! I need advice and help please!!!!!!!! She was also an early teether already has 8 plus is getting molars!!

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Ashley - posted on 11/07/2012

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I'd speak to the person watching her every week. They will usually cooperate with the nap times. A 9 month old should be taking a nap once a day if you want to get a good night's rest. Make sure the nap time will be the same time everyday and that she will be going to bed no less than 6 hours before her last nap or she might not stop. I hope you get some sleep because I know how that is!

Chantell - posted on 11/06/2012

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She is up for the day at 4am... Before this time change it was 5 but now it's an unbareable 4am

Constance - posted on 11/06/2012

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I don't know if this will work for you but this is what I did with my baby and little cousins. If they are not up at about 6 I wake them up in the morning, and give them one nap for about an hour, if they try and sleep longer I wake them any way. I feed, talk, and play with them, if they seem irritable I let them sleep maybe 30 minutes to an hour again and I wake them up. Alot of people wait for them to wake up, I wake them up often because I want them on the schedule that I am. Then at night I settle them down. If she sleeps alot through out the day, then you've found your problem she should in my opinion sleep and hour at most for one nap. When she wakes up at 4 am does she cry or does she just want to watch sesame street? My daughter one time woke me up at 2a.m. and wouldn't go back to sleep so, I kept her up and she was upset, I tried to make her stay up until her naptime at twelve, she was sleepy by six and collapsed at ten. I woke her up and hour later lol, and she hasn't done it since.

Chantell - posted on 11/06/2012

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My mom watches her while I'm at work and she takes about 2 naps a day one about 3 hours after she ekes up and the other later in the day... I'm trying to get her on a routine again! She use to go to sleep around 8/9 now it's 6/7 last night I tried to wake her up at 7:30 so I could bathe her and get the new routine started but she wouldn't wake up and now again this morning up at 4

Constance - posted on 11/05/2012

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Being a mom is full of those moments. Trust me. It is okay to feel this way, however every now and again you have to take some breathing time so that you come back with a clear head. So asking your mom to watch her for fifteen minutes while you get some fresh air, will do wonders for you. As far as the sleeping pattern it can change but do you have a bedtime routine? When you are at work who watches her and how often do they let her sleep? At nine months I would assume she would wake up between 6 and 8 if she was put down between 8 and 10, with one or two naps during the day.

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