Agonizing over having a 3rd baby...

Ary - posted on 04/02/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




Oh, the baby fever I am having!! I have 2 boys, ages 6 and 3 1/2, and I couldn't be happier! However, I have been having such baby fever lately. Hubby and I have been talking about expanding our family by one or two more, and whether we should or shouldn't. He's on the fence, as usual. I don't know if he would ever actually want to actively try for a child, as our first two were accidents (happy accidents, but slip-ups nonetheless). But he doesn't want to get a vasectomy or for me to have my tubes tied, and to be honest, neither do I. I just kind of wish I would get pregnant so I don't have to go through all this "should I or shouldn't I?" dilemma. I just have this vision of adding another child or two to our brood. Has anyone else experienced this? What is having 3 or 4 kids like?


Sarah - posted on 04/03/2012




That "right time" never does come :) It is just what you make of it. My family is a little different then your normal 3 child family. My first two are just like yours (3 1/2 years apart) but are boy/girl. I had liked that age gap. It was 18 months apart from my next sibling in line and I would sometimes hate the tag-a-long thing that would happen as we became older. On the other hand I did not want too far apart so they could still play with each other. Well, before #3 could come my husband and I wanted to get more set with life stuff (home, bigger vehicle, $ as I don't get paid for time off). So this took time and as time went on our two kids became older and more independent. Then I wondered if I wanted to start all over again. Well, 10 years after my second we had our 3rd. I have really enjoyed having another little one. It has also been fun to watch my older two both during my pregnancy (as they were able to understand more) and also now as a baby. That sibling bond is still there, different, but just as special. It has been harder to try to get that "me" time that I had become use to with the indepence of my older two and that at times has been an adjustment. Hubby is often times running the older two to their activities while I am taking care of the baby, and this baby will be at more football, basketball, baseball, softball,and volleyball games then I can count. But some how we make it all work and still enjoy our family.


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Jenni - posted on 04/03/2012




I love having older children and having a baby. I have 4 kids with all kinds of age spans. My kids are 15, 12, 9 and 3. Every time I got "baby fever", I got pregnant. It happens on it's own for us. I think I did try with the 3rd...I don't remember now. lol With the 4th, we were on vacation alone and missed the kids really bad. Should have named her Pray about it and God will place it in your heart about what you should do. I still want one more....but my kids all are colic babies. And I am a midwife, so I will always have babies in my life. I keep breastfeeding my 3 yo so I feel like I still have a baby some days.

Ary - posted on 04/02/2012




Thank you, ladies :). I do talk with my husband, and he is in no way adverse to the idea of a 3rd, but he's so uptight about waiting for "the right time" that I'm wondering if that fictitious "right time" will ever come!

Janice - posted on 04/02/2012




You will never regret the children you have just the ones you don't have.

I have 2 right now. The 1st was planned the 2nd was a surprise. My husband feels our family is complete but I hope to have one more in a few years, our son is only 4 months. We are leaving the possibility open until we are 100% sure we are done.

Those I know who have 3 or more say there is a big transition when you have your 2nd child but all the subsequent children the change isnt a big deal. If you really want a third I think you should seriously discuss it with your hubby and hopefully he will give the okay.

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I am with you. I have 1 so far. I have a boy FH and I talked about TTC again prob by Dec. I vision myself having a last 3 kids 4 is OK for me as well. I am the same ay I get the baby fever Ugh

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