Almost 5 and still wearing pull-ups to bed!

Renee - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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My son will be 5 in July and he still has to wear a pull-up to bed at night or he will pee the bed, how can I get him to not need a pull-up for bedtime?

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what we did, was we put underwear on, THEN the pull ups, and we explained that the goal was to keep the underwear dry... a few accidents, but, after a while, she got the hang of it. we left it that way til she went 7 nights no accidents and then we took the pull up off... good luck!

KEVIN - posted on 03/28/2013

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My daughter is 7 years old and lives with her mom . Her mom leaves her in pull ups 24/7. When she comes to my house she does not wear them and stays dry most of the time. she gets UTI's often is that because she wears the pull ups all the time when she is with her mom. She also has reflux on 1 of her kidneys and has had 3 surgreys on her uretar.

Melissa - posted on 03/14/2010

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When I was a kid I wore diapers at bed until I was like 8, my brother was like 10 or 11 when he no longer had to. If you haven't been there yourself it is hard to understand. Sometimes you just do not get woken up by the urge to pee, you only wake up to notice the bed is wet, sometimes you dream you are in the bathroom, on the toilet, to wake up with a wet bed. It is something that kids will eventually grow out of. It isn't abnormal. The brain is just not transmitting the message to wake up to go to the bathroom. I would have sleepovers and have to bring a diaper, it was embarrassing, but I would try to hide it by not putting it on until I was in my sleeping bag, and taking it off in my sleeping bag right away in the morning. Trust me, your son will learn to wake up. But give him time, it is harder on the kid than it is on you. They don't want to wet the bed at night, it isn't one of those things you can really help them with, eventually their bodies will get it and wake them up.

Liane - posted on 03/14/2010

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I found that both of my girls "used" pull-ups to avoid getting up and using the bathroom. Of course, neither of them had any known bladder issues or other medical reasons as to why they would wet the bed. Once we stopped using the pull-ups they had a couple of accidents and realized they didn't like having to change beds/sheets in the middle of the night. IMO (as long as there is no medical issues) Pull-Ups are just a crutch and should be used very sparingly.

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Crystal - posted on 03/17/2010

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One of my children were potty trained by two years old, but still had problems with wetting the bed till they were about 8 years old. I found out that my child had a shorter tube that connected to the bladder. So this caused my child to have more urinary tract infections. It was a tough process, but they out grew it eventually. There were accidents even when they were older than 8, but no child is perfect and it does happen. The doctor's really helped by giving my child antibiotics and great tips on how to help my child avoid these infections as much as possible. I always give my child reassurance that they are not a bad child just because of this, I love them no matter what.

Diana - posted on 03/17/2010

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I just got my 5yr old to stop but it was a long process. we made him pee before bed them around 11;30 before I went to bed, then one of us would take him around 3. we did this for months then we stopped the 3oclock one and a few months later we stopped it all. hes now bben dry for 3weeks. we do remind him nightly to stay dry, good luck

Flesha - posted on 03/17/2010

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For my boys and they are not your typically developing child..neither one was potty trained ti they were almost 5

Melissa - posted on 03/17/2010

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Boys are sometimes heavy sleepers, and this may require a pill he takes one hour before bed to help with weak muscles or bladder. However he is only 5, i would not worry jst yet! If he is still having a problem and is embarrassed or ashamed then something needs to change for him. Try avoiding any liquids 2 hours before bed, (other than to wet a dry mouth). Going to the rest room jst before bed and wake to go first thing in morn. But in the mean time ask yer DR. If this common pill is best for him and possible side effects besides the fact that It will give you both a little less worrie and more confidence and self esteem for him as he joins night time activities (camp out's cub scouts). Just don't treat him like you are ashamed or mad at him only to learn it was out of his controle. Good luck!

Jane - posted on 03/16/2010

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my friend picks a time every night that she brings her kids to the bathroom. her daughter goes down at 7 so she takes her in at 9. he son goes down at 8 so she takes him in a 11. they get the hang of it and eventually will wake themselves up. just keep the lights off and put a nightlight in the bathroom to keep them in sleep mode.
good luck!

Sara - posted on 03/16/2010

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i have found that cutting drinks off 3 hours before bedtime results in dry diapers in the morning...avoid tea and soda especially. if you serve you child dinner less than 3 hours before bed time, let them have a few sips of water...dont give the child a full drink at dinner. my son is almost 3 and he is just about fully potty trained. even if they dont have anything to drink 3 hours before bed time, make them go to the bathroom a few times before they are down to bed. hope that helps you a little!

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cut down liqiuds b4 8pm or depending on when he goes to ed..usually about 2 hours b4 bedtime and just dont put them on him any more....if he wets the bed he wets the bed.

Tammy - posted on 03/16/2010

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My oldest son was 11 before he stoped need night time protection, and I have and 7 year old that has accidents some of the time. He is a twin and his twin has not had an accident since he was 5. Every child is different and will develop at their own pace. The best thing to do is not put any presuer on your child and not make this a big issue. Praise him for all the good he has done during the day before he goes to bed and let him know how proud you are of him. Know you are a good mom because you love your son so much to seek for help. Out of 5 children I have one that stoped bed wetting at age 2 and one at age 3 and 1/2 the rest were 5 or older. I hope this helps.

Susan - posted on 03/16/2010

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my son is almost 10 and still does i had to upgrade to the small size depends for men.we have tried but it is hard expecially cause my son has autism and adhd. but still trying

Tahlia - posted on 03/16/2010

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My son will be 5 in September and our doctor told us when hes really then he'll stop but its nothing to rush. I guess just take it one day at a time. Like some nights hes fine and wake up dry and others hes wet, its just up to them and when they're ready :) good luck.
Tahlia

Ala Ala - posted on 03/15/2010

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when i was training my daughter i would carry her to the bathroom at 1am. i know it is hard work or us, but just need to be patient. i did this for two weeks. then she got the idea and soon she was able to sleep through the night without accidents

Renee - posted on 03/15/2010

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thank you for letting me know that my son is not alone, as for using the pull-up as a crutch, I tried letting him sleep without it a few times and when he peed the bed he slept in it until the morning,he was so wet when i woke him in the morning that his pants were completely wet, wetting the bed doesn't seem to disturb his sleep at all and I certainly don't want him sleeping in pee.

Emma - posted on 03/15/2010

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You know, when I was young, I had a chemical imbalance in my kidneys that caused bed wetting until the age of 7 or 8. It took a few tests to figure out what the problem was, and once it was known, there wasn't much to do about it, but I did out grown it. I know this isn't a great solution, but it's another possibility to look into.

Toni - posted on 03/14/2010

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i had a friend that wet his bed till about age 15 it turned out he had a problem with his back after a few trips to the physio or chiropractor (a child one) he stopped..

Nicole - posted on 03/14/2010

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My son is 5 and still uses a pull-up, I was the same way when I was a child. Deep sleeping runs in family. I do limit drinks before bed and have talked to his Dr. and he didnt see say medical reason and suggested to just wait it out.

Lynn - posted on 03/14/2010

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I am in the same boat my daughter is 5 and she still needs pull ups to go to bed i took my daughter to the doctors to get her bladder checked and thankfully it was ok but I am still concerned.

Kim - posted on 03/14/2010

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A lot of people ask this question. My son is 10 and still does. Some kids just don't have the bladder control and they are deep sleepers. Drs won't do anythign about it until they are 7 or 8, and then they can give you pills but as soon as they stop taking them it can just come back. And if it runs in the family the kid just can't help it. You can try limiting drinks after dinner and make sure he uses the bathroom. If you wake him to use the bathroom chances are he will still really be half asleep and it won't help with the problem. When he outgrows the pullups Goodnights work well. I hope he stops soon but if he doesn't realize its not something he can control. Btw my daughter stopped at 4.5 and my other one at a 2.5, so you just never know.

Kim - posted on 03/14/2010

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A lot of people ask this question. My son is 10 and still does. Some kids just don't have the bladder control and they are deep sleepers. Drs won't do anythign about it until they are 7 or 8, and then they can give you pills but as soon as they stop taking them it can just come back. And if it runs in the family the kid just can't help it. You can try limiting drinks after dinner and make sure he uses the bathroom. If you wake him to use the bathroom chances are he will still really be half asleep and it won't help with the problem. When he outgrows the pullups Goodnights work well. I hope he stops soon but if he doesn't realize its not something he can control. Btw my daughter stopped at 4.5 and my other one at a 2.5, so you just never know.

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