Alright ladies, I have a 4 yr. old who just doesn't seem to want to be potty trained. What do I do??

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Joanne - posted on 08/12/2009

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My oldest boy didn't toilet train until he was 3 yrs and 8mths and I had been trying for a very stressful year. He would go for days at a time using the toilet and then he would revert back to wetting his pants. I tried everything and it frustrated me to hear of friends who only took a week or so and their child was toilet trained. It drove me insane but in the end something clicked and he just stopped doing it. As hard as it is I would just give up trying and wait till she shows signs or at least don't try again for a month. My son is now 6 and he still is not dry through the night yet.

Iris - posted on 08/12/2009

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We had troubles with my stepson when he was that age potty training.. We put him in pull-ups and made him wear them .. Everytime he pees them , make him stick them in the garbage and tell him that those are big boys underwear. Have u tried putting him on the potty every 20 min and mke him sit there til he pees.. Specially after a drink? It only took us a couple of months to get my stepson potty trained by that.. My stepson has ADHD, so it was harder for him to learn..

Jasmin - posted on 08/12/2009

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You could make an issue out of it but as Maret says she will figure it out. My son was 4 1/2 but then one day he decided no more diapers/pullups and he was done. No issues at night or day. Be patient and let her do it because you can't MAKE them pee or poo in the potty, they have to choose. Maybe an incentive like a sticker or something would help but it really comes down to weither they want to or not.

Hope this helps

Jasmin

Maret - posted on 08/11/2009

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I went through this, too. It turned into a huge battle. An older mom told me not to get too worked up about it, and she'd figure it out when she was ready. Once she saw for herself that other kids didn't wear pull-ups to kindergarten, AND didn't wet their pants, her transformation was immediate.

User - posted on 08/11/2009

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My son was the same he has been totally trained during the day for a long time now but for a good six months (yes, it took that long) after being wee trained he would hide and do poos in his pants - i think it was a reaction thing as we eventually got sick of enforcing 'it is to be done in the toilet' and totally ignored it - was hard to do i would clean him up and change him with out making any eye contact or saying anything - hard to do at times. but it worked i went over the top with praise when he eventually got it right and he has been fine for ages now. my daughter was the oppisate - she used to wet herself but use the toilet for a wee... don't know if that helps' but it just takes time and patience, even though it can be very hard when going out and stuff.

oh also my kids thought pull ups were nappies and used them like a nappy so we just used undies!

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i am also in this situation although my son is 3 years old. and i dont know what to do either!!!

Kelly - posted on 08/11/2009

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My daughter does the same thing -- pees fine, but won't poop in potty. Doesn't matter what I offer for a reward. Just hang in there -- the doctor said 99% of kids are completely potty trained by kindergarten regardless of what you do.

Crystal - posted on 08/10/2009

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My son loved fake tatoos. He was covered for the first couple of weeks. I used whatever bribe worked until he got the hang of it. He still has trouble going poop but I just have to catch him standing funny and put him on the pot.

Lori - posted on 08/10/2009

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My daughter was the same way. She got the peeing thing down but would not poo in the potty. I had to just keep a close eye on her for a couple of days and catch her right before she did it and put her on the potty. Another thing that probably helped a lot, and is probably against those parenting books, is that we would give her a sucker if she did her poo in the potty. She loved the "dum dum" suckers and we knew that if we could just get her to go a few times that she would get the hang of it and go on her own, and she did. FYI: she does not ask for a sucker when she does her business now, it kinda phased out.

Stephanie - posted on 08/10/2009

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I'll try the sticker thing. Hope it works. She does great with peeing but the poop thing she just wont do. She hides from me or runs to her sisters or brother and come tell me. LOL Thank you very much.



Quoting Hazel :

hi I have a three year old who has been potty trained for about a year and a half now. i used reward stickers which i used every time she pee'd or poo'd by herself.. i would say let her be, she's the right age to be potty trained. she'll grow out of it.. i would reward her every time she uses the potty and praise her.. hope this helps a bit.. :)





 

Stephanie - posted on 08/10/2009

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I have a girl!!



Quoting Amber:

Question..do you have a boy or girl? Girls are easier and more mature so if you have a boy try to be patient. it is harder for them.





 

Amber - posted on 08/10/2009

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Question..do you have a boy or girl? Girls are easier and more mature so if you have a boy try to be patient. it is harder for them.

Amber - posted on 08/10/2009

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Hear is what us moms do not want to hear but it is so true! If they are ready they will do it! it will do no good to push the issue because it could cause more emotional issues that are sinceless to create. Time is what it will take. In the mean time use whatever you can to interest them....m and ms as rewards or a trip to a friend or family members house, etc. You can try letting them run around in the backyard without underwear or with underwear and pullups over them. In the end though it will still be their interest that brings about real training. My pediatritian told me that there is a 15% chance of a child not learning or taking interest at 5 years old. I know....yuck! Mine is 3 years old and is not interested at all....I am waiting while biting my lip.

Hazel - posted on 08/10/2009

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hi I have a three year old who has been potty trained for about a year and a half now. i used reward stickers which i used every time she pee'd or poo'd by herself.. i would say let her be, she's the right age to be potty trained. she'll grow out of it.. i would reward her every time she uses the potty and praise her.. hope this helps a bit.. :)

Janet - posted on 08/09/2009

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my little girl is night time trained and day time trained, l just got her to wear the pull up nappies and she was good only a few days they got wet or maybe just put on undies and let them stay wet they soon get you to put a clean one on , and say only if you go to the toilet then l will keep you clean with dry ones , take him shopping and let him pick the undies, he will love that

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