Always crying or fighting help

Leanne - posted on 09/26/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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i have 2 daughters 19months and 3.5 yrs old and they are driving me around the bend!!!! They have both started waking at 5.30 am (was 6.30/7) and the arguing and crying starts from then until bedtime when this usually peacefull time of the day is again another "situation" with the 3 yr old. I am stressed up to my eyeballs. i have tried everything i can think of. more games less games, i am careful with foods, the naughty chair, more sleep, less sleep i am going insane!!! My husband works 12hour days 6 days a week so i have no help :(
ANy ideas???

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Alison - posted on 09/30/2013

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hope it gets better Leanne. Another good one is Sibling Rivalry and, when they're older "How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk" (by the same authors) Good luck.

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Leanne - posted on 09/26/2013

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Thanks Alison :) I was very frazzled this morning writing that post. I really appreciate your input and as i am a mom who is very into my routine and reading to get the best out of my girls the book you recommended is def on my to get list.
This afternoon has been a lot smoother thank goodness they aren't usually this bad its only been the past 2 weeks and its caught me completely off guard.
Once again thanks for your response

Regards
Leanne

Alison - posted on 09/26/2013

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Those are hard ages. Love and logic magic for early childhood is really good if you can buy it or check it out. It talks about saying yes and giving them as many choices as possible. That's sharing the control so that when you need to be firm on a decision, they're more liable to share some of the control with you. Employ natural consequences. If they're throwing or fighting over a toy, take it away. They have to earn it back with chores. Obviously, your 19 month old can't do a lot of chores, but she can sure learn that if she's playing naughty things get taken away. Or say, if she's throwing her food, then you say "uh oh, looks like lunch time is over" and she has to wait until the next meal. If it's a lot of whining, say "I can hear you when you talk in a big kid voice" and then go deaf until your 3 year old complies. If the older one gets violent, remove her to her room until she's calm and ready to try again. For them sleeping in, you can try darkening the windows or setting an alarm for 6:30 and saying you won't respond to them (for a non-emergency) until that alarm goes off. I also give you permission to turn on cartoons to get a few extra winks. :O) Here's a free love and logic website with some resources. http://www.loveandlogic.com/t-Free-Artic...

I have a 4 and 5 yr old. They've gone through fighting phases and best friend phases and right now it's kind of an as the mood strikes them thing. I find they fight more when our house isn't clean and/or they're bored or not getting enough attention from me. I think your will play better together when your little one gets a little older. Hang in there. powerofmoms.com is also a good website.

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