Am I a good "future step Mom"? I tend to doubt myself and need reasurance..

Katie - posted on 11/21/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Just wanted to know other peoples opinion, Because I tend to doubt myself when it comes to my boyfriends 2 kids ages 7 & 8



I am no where near the best, And honestly this is the first time ever being a Mother figure to someones Children before.



But I do have to say I try my very very best, I am a adult figure when they are around and I answer every question that they ask with a smile on my face and give positive answers back.

I am patient to a point unless I am having a bad day..



I am always thinking of better way to handle things and do research when I don't know the answer to something.



When they get home from School I ask them how they day went, Help them with there Homework and have them read with/to me.



The oldest is 8 and when she is having emotional roller coaster days I calmly talk to her and ask her what is bothering her, And I help her on how to control the new emotions that she is having and always talk positive.



Yes they have there bad days, Where they are in a snotty mood/crying a lot..Wither it's arguing with each other or getting in a screaming fight with there friends, I handle each situation the best I can.



I give them household chores to help out with and they absolutely LOVE being involved and being able to help me out with cleaning.



They rarely talk back , "unless they go to there Mothers"



If they are rude to each other I quickly correct them and ask them how they should of said it in a nice manor.



They are pretty good at picking up after themselves, saying thank you and your welcome, and if they lie after putting them in the corner for 10min they will always tell the truth.



They sleep in there own rooms and keep them clean, And if you tell them to stop doing something you very rarely have to tell them more then twice.



I hear on there Mothers facebook about how she is such a amazing parent but she doesn't spend nearly as much time with them as I do, And she doesn't act like a Mother or Adult to them at all more like a friend

She also tells the kids that me and there Father will not last, and never disciplines them, she causes drama 24/7 ...I know how she truly is but every one she knows thinks she should get Mother of the year....



I want to hear how amazing I am for once...after hearing so much from her and getting put down by her and her friends on FB "even though they are her friends it still hurts knowing people I don't even know are putting me down and knowing the kids go over there every other weekend worries me"

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Amanda - posted on 11/21/2012

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No worries, I grew up in a step family so I know how tough it can be for both parties.



Hang in there, the kids will thank you for it in the long run.

Katie - posted on 11/21/2012

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Thank you so much!

I try my best, and I have never ever said anything negative about there Mother to them or around them. I do say that me and there Father do not agree with a lot that she does but that's it.

But what you said meant to much to me thank you again!!! :)

Amanda - posted on 11/21/2012

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You sound like you are doing fine.

All you can do as a step parent is to provide a stable enviroment for those kids and be there when they need you, love them like they were your own and don't say bad things about their mother no matter what you think of her and her parenting skills.

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