am i being to dramatic?

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okay so i have 3 boys and 1 girl and so we nicknamed our daugher baby girl and have been calling her that since birth which was 14 months ago and my problem is now my hubby's brother just had a daughter just under a week ago and now my hubbies family is calling HER baby girl! which really angers me why cant they be creative and think of there own nickname?? her name is scoutt so at the beggining while she was still in the womb ppl were calling her girl scout cause at first scout was going to be the middle name but they pulled a trick on everyone and made it her first name and i think some family members dont like it so instead of calling her girl scout or girly scout they are calling her our babies nickname which i think is ridiculous!! i mentioned it to my mil on the phone when she refered to her as baby girl i immediately said you cant have that name we already have a baby girl but then my hubby heard his sister say it so he said something to his mom and she gave some lame excuse about she calls all girls that!! which is soooo far from the truth it is obsurb!! please tell me i am not being overdramatic!! but come on first they copy me on furniture and other things but i draw the line on nicknames please geesh if they have a boy next will they call him baby bean?? like one of our sons is called?? well i look forward to hearing your thoughts on this! frankly i am not looking forward to the holiday that i have to spend with these relatives and i may burst if i hear them call scoutt BABY GIRL!! ugh...

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Abby - posted on 04/16/2009

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Many times I have laughed becuase it was that or cry.



Good luck, I so see where you are coming from and I hope that some other little thing can come along and distact you from the real stresses of life!  I'm sure everyone would have been more understanding if they knew about your 2yrold. Just be careful not to take it out on your family, you need them right now.

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well i am no longer upset over it cause they are not calling her baby girl well maybe my mil but that is it! my bil said that my girl is the only baby girl in the family so they can call his daugher her name or some other nickname.. as for other problems in the family i am going through so much right now that the littlest things bother me so i do know how to deal with crisis i have a 2 yr old who is about to have brain surgery to remove a tumor and i just found out my great nana has bone cancer so i rather focus on the small stuff so i dont have to think about the bigger issues...

Jacqui - posted on 04/14/2009

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Yeah, it just seems ridiculous to me to get angry at someone and possible start an overblown family feud over a nickname! I have an older sister who had two kids before I had my first, and I found I just couldn't help using some of the same names and expressions as her--like stinky. I totally stole that. I call my baby stinky. When you spend a lot of time with people it just sort of rubs off. Big deal. Even if it IS genuinely copying...so? If you're getting this worked up over such a little thing, what's going to happen to your family relationship when an actual problem arises?

Heidi - posted on 04/14/2009

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Quoting Jessie:



You're getting upset over a nickname?  LOL I'm sorry, but if that's the biggest thing you're worrying about, then honey you have nothing to worry about.  There are worse things that your in-laws could be doing than nickname stealing.  Just let it go. 






I so agree with this.  I have in-laws that are terrible and mean.  I wish the only thing they ever did was steal a nickame!

Angie - posted on 04/14/2009

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Yes, I think you're being too dramatic. A lot of people call their daughter "baby girl". In fact, I am 100% sure that even you took the idea for that nickname from someone else. I call my girls my ladybugs and my cousin just had a daughter and thought it was so cute that she calls her baby Ladybug. Frankly, I think it's a cute nickname and I'm glad she thinks it is too.

Jessie - posted on 04/14/2009

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You're getting upset over a nickname?  LOL I'm sorry, but if that's the biggest thing you're worrying about, then honey you have nothing to worry about.  There are worse things that your in-laws could be doing than nickname stealing.  Just let it go. 

Kathleen - posted on 04/13/2009

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I use babygirl for my daughter, and babe for all three kids, and bud for my sons. I can't even keep nicknames limited to one child within my own family, let alone expect others to regard them as off-limits.

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you may be acting a little dramatic. "Baby girl" is so common. I use it as do some of my friends. You may ask them to use real names when everyone is around so there is no confusion but then you will have to use your daughters name.

User - posted on 04/13/2009

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Wow, I hope for your sake, that this is your biggest problem in life.  First of all, it's not a nickname.  We all have/had baby girls or baby boys.  Any of us can be calling our child that. 



And for people who are upset that their friends/relatives named their children the "forbidden" name - are you for real??  Who cares?  Did you really think your Mary Jane, Sarah Elizabeth and John Bob were going to be the only ones on the planet?



No wonder we are such an angry society, when people get upset about such stupid things.

Abby - posted on 04/12/2009

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i'd be hacked off too. but relax and be the bigger person, take it as a compliment that she wants to be like u.



my mum always called me baby girl and im 22 and she still does, it is quite a common nickname but is slightly different when she is the only girl. speak to ur sister in law, or try calling her by her real name.



hope u feel happier soon. xx

Heather - posted on 04/12/2009

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I would relax to...I consider that a general nickname...I use it our daughter once in awhile.  Although her nickname is Lizzy for Elizabeth.  I would just say see if it will go away on its own.  Also in families you are always going to have struggles just chose your battles wisely.



Hopefully things dont get under your skin to much worse!

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Quoting Emily:

I think you are being dramatic. "baby girl" is such a general term. She is a girl, and she's a baby. She is a baby girl. Really I would get over it. I would be upset if they were calling her by my childs REAL first name, but not by a dumb nickname. I would really get over it!



I agree with Emily.  We call our daughter baby girl.... it's a nickname, she had many. Their baby is a week old and will get called many different names throughout her life.  Sit back and chill - life is to short!

Dawn - posted on 04/11/2009

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haha...yeah they spelled their daughter's name lylly mae. i was going to spell it lilly may. so idk maybe they thought if they murdered the spelling it wouldn't be stealing?? we were having dinner with them today actually (early easter dinner with the whole family) and she was fishing for names to name this one. so what me and my other sister in law were doing was telling her that we liked all these stupid names hoping she'd pick one of those and not the ones we liked!! i'm done having kids but it's just the point! i felt sooo childish but whatever!

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Quoting Dawn:

well my step brother and his wife are name stealers and it ticks me off too!! my husband and i had dated for 5 years before we got married but we had discussed having kids for a few years before. and one of the names that we had picked out was lilly may if we ever had a girl. well they got married first and had a baby girl and guess what they named her???? you got it. they're reasoning? well you don't actually have kids yet so we're taking it!!!!!! ok so we got over that...and we named our daughter Eden. well then they had a son 5 months after we had her and they named him ian...eden and ian. way too close! and now they're having another one so we're wondering who's name they will try to copy now!


i had a cousin who did the exact thing when we were young we grew up like sisters and not cousins and i always told her if i had a girl i would name her courtney well she had a baby girl first and she took that name i was so angry but i let it fly cause i wasnt speaking with that side of the family anymore but when my mom told me i felt my face turn red i was so angry and she spelled completely wrong like she didnt know how to spell it!! lol as for your daughters name and there sons name yeah i would say they are very uncreative and cant seem to come up with names themselves so it ought to be interesting who's name they steal next!! dont give them any ideas!!! ppl need to think of things themselves!

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well i had a talk with my bil and he was not the one who started the name it was my mil so now he is going to let her know there is only one baby girl and that is lexi! so i feel much better now that i had a talk with him and got to the bottom of it he said they can call his daughter her name or girl scoutt or angel anything but baby girl cause he wouldnt want to confuse my daugter so there it goes just another pain in the ass mil!! ugh..

Jolene - posted on 04/10/2009

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Hmmm I can see how that is frustrating. Baby girl is pretty general though, and already having a baby in the family being called that may make it easy to fall into calling the other baby that as well. Obviously your the one in their family, and would know if this was intentional or not, but from an outside perspective thats how I would see it.

Dawn - posted on 04/10/2009

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well my step brother and his wife are name stealers and it ticks me off too!! my husband and i had dated for 5 years before we got married but we had discussed having kids for a few years before. and one of the names that we had picked out was lilly may if we ever had a girl. well they got married first and had a baby girl and guess what they named her???? you got it. they're reasoning? well you don't actually have kids yet so we're taking it!!!!!! ok so we got over that...and we named our daughter Eden. well then they had a son 5 months after we had her and they named him ian...eden and ian. way too close! and now they're having another one so we're wondering who's name they will try to copy now!

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well i am glad someone gets it! well if i notice it this easter sunday i will mention nicely that we already have a baby girl and it will confuse baby girl if you start calling her cousin scout the same name! besides it isnt my fault we had a baby girl first it took me 4 times they had plenty of time to beat me to the nickname!! ugh... i was thinking of putting my baby girl in this pink outfit i have that actually says baby girl on the top but i rather put her in the cute easter outfit i got her but that would make a statement!! lol

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wish i could get over it but this family is so ridiculous they can never think for themselves they always want or get what i have and this is just the icing on the cake and that is the real reason it is really getting under my skin! ugh...

Christelle - posted on 04/10/2009

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We had an almost similar situation where my BIL's son had a certain nickname and then when second BIL (the blue eyed boy) had a son, he suddenly got the same.  So my husband mentioned to his parents that they are not being fair.  And would you believe it, they did the same when our son was born!  My husband had a serious and little angry discussion with them, and now all boys have their own.  For us it had to do with position in the familiy, some being faffed and others not, and we are quite happy that it;s now sorted.  Even in our house, we take care not to use the same nicknames for our young one than with the elder, and with my sisters newborn, we're also using a brandnew nickname.

Emily - posted on 04/10/2009

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I think you are being dramatic. "baby girl" is such a general term. She is a girl, and she's a baby. She is a baby girl. Really I would get over it. I would be upset if they were calling her by my childs REAL first name, but not by a dumb nickname. I would really get over it!

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