Am I being unreasonable

Layla - posted on 08/11/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Please help somebody I don't now if I'm going mad I have been in a relationship for 2 and 1/2 years to my partner who I have a baby girl with who's now 13 months old I also have 2 boys from a previous partner and my partner has ful custody of his other daughter who I take care of too full time 7 days a week 24 hours a day my partner works self employed and I also so I am getting really down lately because I feel he moans about having to help with the kids or any house work bare in mind I don't stop with all 4 this includes my step daughter also I was hoping with me taking on my step daughter he would at least help me a little he leaves all his crap around expecting me to tidy up his mess I'm up most the night with our teething daughter so I'm so so tired as well I ask him to help me so I can get ready but makes excuses that he's busy wile saying this sitting on his phone it's really getting me down am I going over the top or is this unfair I am never allowed to be on my own without the kids or he's asking why I'm going out he doesn't like my friends hates me going out there's so much more I can say but to much x

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Michelle - posted on 08/11/2016

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No, your not being unreasonable. He should be a Father, not just the "Breadwinner". Being a Father means actually being there for your children. It sounds like he's happy that he has a free babysitter for his daughter.
If you can't talk to him about how you are feeling maybe suggest marriage counseling. He needs to realize that running a house isn't just your job, everyone makes a mess so they all need to help out.
My husband and I both work full time and we share the housework. My husband will also start dinner if I am running late. He also takes our daughter to dance on a Saturday morning when I work. We have a partnership and that's the best way for a marriage/relationship to work.
I would also suggest not marrying until this issue is sorted out as it won't change straight away.

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