Am I being unreasonable here??

Joleen - posted on 02/22/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My husband owns his own business, so he works long hours. I stay at home with our 2 year old daughter, plus I do all the housework as well as all the cooking. All he has to do when he is home, is spend time with our daughter so I can get whatever chores done that I couldn't finish during the day.

My husband has expressed on numerous occasions that he needs more of my help with his business. So, I recently took on the bookkeeping & monthly reports. I do this work either while she naps, or in the evenings after she goes to bed. Now, he has come to me & asked me about doing some other manual work. He explained that he didn't see why I couldn't just do an additional hour a day.

I'm probably already preaching to the choir here, but where does he think i have the time for all of this?? I have expressed that I can't do the extra hour & he is acting like I'm being unreasonable. He constantly tells me that he has a lot of stress being the only income & that I need to help out.

I don't mind helping, but honestly, being a SAHM is exhausting enough without all these additional demands. I'm already helping by doing all the meals, dishes, laundry, cleaning in addition to my primary job of caring for our daughter. It's not as though I have much time on my hands. I also deal with high levels of anxiety, for which I am trying to control without medication. So, it's important for me to be able to wind down at the end of the day, just so I can knit, have a bath, relax, or read.

Am I being unreasonable with not caving in to his demands? It's causing so much friction in my marriage, I kind of just want to give in, but then I think it's not really fair either. What would you do?

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Daisy - posted on 02/22/2014

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Husbands can be so unreasonable sometimes! Am from Kenya and I have a3yr old son,my husband works but I stay at home doing the house chores and its a bit easier for me because my boy goes to school(baby class) from 7am to 4pm so I have alot of free time.the problem is I wish I had some work that could earn me money here at home.and for your case,your husband is being unreasonable he is pushing some of his responsibilities to you.how about you talk to him,each person takes care of their duties during the week and on weekends you rest,spend time together.

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