Am I Going Crazy?

Hilary - posted on 05/20/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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.ok i wake up everyday as my babys father is headin out the door an then i tend to my baby all day long BY MYSELF..from 7:30 am to 6:00pm all the time dont nobody cum see me dont nobody call its juss me sitting all alone an i think im goin crazy like all i do is cry an im mad at everyone, an it feels like im juss slipping into sinking sand an i have no one to help me out n i cant get myself out,please help me sumone i have no clue what to do?..i cant get out cuz i dont have a car an im like 20 mins from all my family an ahh i juss dont know what to do..any suggestions?

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Tamara - posted on 05/20/2010

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Hi.I have exactly the same life as you.Husband works all day,family live over an hour away,no car and no visitors.It sounds like you have post natal depression so should see a doctor.Many people i know have gone through this and you do get better once you ask for help.Are there any mothers groups in walking distance to you?If so,maybe you could join one.It gets you out of the house and puts you in touch with mums who have children the same age as you.It will also give you a chance to talk to a health nurse who has a lot of experience in the emotions you are feeling.I hope you feel better soon.Take care

Jonna - posted on 05/20/2010

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It sounds like postpartum depression to me, but it really is normal to feel that way. I have a car , but I am quite far away from my family and I get really stir crazy at home. Things that help me are getting outside. I know it sounds silly but, watering the lawn and gardening and taking walks are all activities that make me feel better. Do you have any neighbors that have children as well? If there is a park near by that you you could walk to and push baby on the swings for a bit and then have a picnic lunch or something. Talk with you husband about how you feel. Maybe one day a week he could drop you and the baby off with family before he goes to work. If it keeps getting worse, call your doctor and talk about it. There are support systems to help mothers who feel like this. You are NOT alone. Good Luck

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Sounds like post partum to me as well. I felt that way a lot. Id try calling some friends and family over to visit. If that doesn't work call one of them on the phone, during nap time, and chat away! We dont have play groups around here. Live in the middle of nowhere! LOL I make sure to read a good book. Call someone or I do another thing I love which is digi scrapbooking. If you still feel really low in the dumps, maybe try calling your dr and see what he/she says about it. Good luck, it'll get better, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

Kathy - posted on 05/20/2010

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Hi sweetie,it sounds like a page out of my book... it does get better with time... start doing little things that make you happy, do something for you... the only thing you can rely on is you... Start to take some control back of your life... just little things make a difference....I'm going to sound like a broken record, but find a playgroup,or start one...it's such a great start in so many ways, an other great start is community health centres... there is help out there if you look... you don't have to be alone... we as mothers are here for you... take a deep breath .... a start each day with a plan... thinking of you...

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You said nobody calls you, have you tried giving your friends a call and inviting them in for the morning? Or ask them to lunch sometime, so they could do the driving? You have to put yourself out their, it's not really fair to get mad a people for not calling you if you are not calling them either, ya know.



Btw, I don't mean that in a judgmental way at all! Shortly after my son was born I fell into the same funk, and it took me months to realize they probably weren't calling me because they were waiting for me to call them. I had a new baby, so they didn't want to call and wake my baby, and they knew I'd be busy and want some space for a while, but they all just figured I would call them when I wanted to / had time to. Unfortunately, I was so used to getting calls, I felt like everyone just forgot about me. So just pick up the phone and call a girl friend :) I promise you'll feel better.

Crystal - posted on 05/20/2010

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I agree with the other posts on here. You have to have YOU time. I spend all day at home too, so I started to online classes at Kaplan, and I love it because it gives me something to do. Also, I go for walks. Even if you live on a dirt road, you can still walk with your child, even if it is a boring walk, it will help to get out. You could also put together a small garden outside that way you can get outside. Vitamin D is very good, it is so easy to get and it helps with your mood too, if you live in a overcast area like Seattle or Chicago, I would start taking Vitamin D in pill form. It can help. Also talk to your doctor, sometimes doctors can post in the exam rooms that there are mothers with children with a certain age that want to start a playgroup. This is so helpful for your child too, because they have to learn to socialize with more than just mom. They need other kid interaction. if your husband doesn't work to far away could you take him to and from work? I do this sometimes because I have appointments or things to do during the time he is working, and we only have one car as well. This will also help you get out of the house more. Even if it just to take him to and from work. Or see if he can carpool with someone else that way you can save gas, and that way you have the car all day.



Anyway, I hope this helps you, and don't forget that you are not alone.

Laurie - posted on 05/20/2010

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You are not going crazy - just bored with your routine probably or suffering post partum depression. You should try to make some friends - talking with other adults helps immensely. Take your baby for a walk in the stroller and go meet other moms in the park. Strike up conversations with complete strangers and eventually you will start to form some friendships and that is what will save your sanity. Not to mention having some help/relief with looking after your child - you can start to schedule playdates/exchange babysitting services so that you can have some much needed alone time.

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